Yall, my bio-mom has some 6th sense for, "Janeway must be out enjoying time w/her family," bc she tried to call me again.

It's been *19 yrs* since we talked.

If I genuinely thought she was working on herself, was safe to be around my kids, etc, I wouldn't hesitate. I have a...
...lot of grace & compassion for ppl w/mental illness.

However, she's not. She's still toxic & self-focused.

One of the last times I saw her, she pinched my belly, & said, "You'd better lose that gut, or you'll be a fat bitch like your mama. Hahaha!"

Weird.

At the time, it...
...hurt, of course.

Now? I would look at her & laugh, & tell her to get the hell off my property bc I was calling the cops.

So, tonight, I chose to celebrate the family in front of me. #TheMarathonRunner had a great choir concert, where once again, she CHOSE to mask: Image
She sang a song that I learned at the same age, "Sarasponda" but was arranged as a lovely, dynamic, round.

#TheMarathonRunner, #TheSupergirl, & #MissPhoton, are all eating chicken tenders, mozzarella sticks, & fries, w/ice cream for after.
Marathon Runner just ran in here & said, "Onion rings! I got to try onion rings & they're DELICIOUS!"

Miss Photon yelled, "I like them too!"

The Supergirl wore her suit to the concert, but got upset at the idea of ppl seeing her in one, & went home early. That was fine. 🌻 ImageImageImage
#TheVulcan has tuned his guitar to DADGAD, & dear God in heaven, that is a beautiful sound.

This is the life I wanted, the life we're building together. Free of shame, bigotry, & condemnation. There is light & love & beauty of all sorts.
I'm so grateful that, over 19 yrs ago, I resisted picking up the phone. Over and over and over again, I resisted. There was no support for this, no social media groups, & even counselors told me I'd "forgive her someday."

It's not abt forgiveness.

It's about roots in good soil. Image
And my kids are safe, loved, securely attached, & free of the constant drama that the adults brought into my childhood.

Yes, my family has drama. But not the kind spun out of thin air, that poisons the air.

And tonight, we once again choose peace & joy.

Love to all of you. 🖖

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