Here’s why highly sensitive people get overstimulated easily.
Imagine an invisible bucket that we all carry around with us. Some people have a big bucket, while others (sensitive people) have a smaller bucket.
No one gets to choose the size of their bucket. We’re all born with a different nervous system and a different capacity to deal with stimulation.
Yet no matter the size of the bucket, every sound, every emotion, and every experience fills it a little more.
If your bucket is running dry, you feel bored, restless, or even depressed. But if your bucket is overflowing, you feel stressed, fatigued, and overwhelmed — maybe even panicked, angry, and out of control.
Everyone, then, has a certain threshold for stimuli, and everyone seeks to have their bucket filled to just the right level so they are neither under- nor overstimulated.
For you, as a sensitive person, your bucket fills quickly from everyday activities, like going to work, caring for your kids, running errands, or socializing.
When your bucket gets full, it spills over. You become emotionally dysregulated and overstimulated. It’s your body’s way of saying, “No more. I have processed enough.”
The key is to prevent overstimulation before it starts and to learn how to calm overstimulation quickly when it does happen.