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I read an article a few minutes ago titled "How to Fight Off Your Inner Critic."
In #IFS therapy, we teach the opposite. The Inner Critic is not an entity from outside yourself. You created this part early in life most likely.
Befriend this part.
Get to know several things:
In #IFS therapy, we teach the opposite. The Inner Critic is not an entity from outside yourself. You created this part early in life most likely.
Befriend this part.
Get to know several things:
First, what does it perceive as its role in your life?
Second, how old does this Inner Critic think you are? If they're not correct, catch them up
Third, what are they afraid would happen if they didn't criticize you?
Fourth, are they willing to modify their role.
They can.
Second, how old does this Inner Critic think you are? If they're not correct, catch them up
Third, what are they afraid would happen if they didn't criticize you?
Fourth, are they willing to modify their role.
They can.
Inner critics are often crafted the way they are because we create them as children to manage our personal disappointments.
We do not succeed at something, so this part of us is designed to push us to do better. Since children are often shamed for failing at simple tasks,
We do not succeed at something, so this part of us is designed to push us to do better. Since children are often shamed for failing at simple tasks,
they perceive this as the method to achieve growth: Shame themselves into doing better.
That works with kids.
But the older we get, it becomes damaging.
Ask the Inner Critic to become a coach. Or an assessment part. Ask them to work with your Core Self not against.
That works with kids.
But the older we get, it becomes damaging.
Ask the Inner Critic to become a coach. Or an assessment part. Ask them to work with your Core Self not against.
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