Thread by @phoeplays

Let’s talk about asexuality 🧵

First of all, asexuality is the ‘lack of sexual attraction' - not the lack of a sex drive. Asexuality exists on a spectrum, with some ace people being sex-repulsed and celibate, while others may still be open to having sex under VERY specific circumstances.

Many ace people are not 'aromantic', so they still desire romantic relationships but aren't interested in sex. However, they may choose to have sex in order to feel close to their partner or for procreation purposes etc. Most asexuals still have a libido and enjoy masturbating 👀

Again, ace people still have a sex drive, they just don't experience 'sexual attraction'. To explain it as simply as possible, asexuals never look at someone and think 'I'd like to fuck that person'. That instinct/urge to have sex just isn't there.

I sometimes jokingly refer to myself as a ‘slutty asexual'. I've had my fair share of partners in the past (before I realised I was ace). l'm very dirty minded and make a lot of jokes about sex, possibly because I feel so detached from it and use humour as a coping mechanism 😂

I've never 'slept around', but I always thought it was weird how I never felt sexually attracted to anyone - even people who I felt strong romantic bonds to. For a long time, I believed that I was 'broken' and that maybe one day the ‘right person' would come along 🤷🏻‍♂️

I'm aware that I haven't faced the same struggles that other LGBTQ+ people have conquered, but I definitely felt 'alien' for a long time. There's an ongoing debate regarding whether ace people are included in pride, but it's clear that we need to raise awareness about asexuality.

Let people love who they love and fuck who they want (with consent, of course).

It literally has no impact on your life.