Thread by @jazampawfarr

It’s our anniversary today and this is what 21 years of marriage looks like.

We’ve laughed, we’ve cried, we’ve been angry at each other, we’ve grown three spectacular humans and we’ve done the hard yards needed to navigate life both as individuals and as a couple…

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In the early days, when I would pack a bag and scream at Ed that I was leaving, he’d respond by pulling his bag down for the wardrobe and ask, “OK, where are we going?”

Being in a relationship with someone who has navigated any sort of trauma is rarely plain sailing...

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It takes steadfastness and vision. On our 1st date Ed said he could see us walking along Brighton promenade holding hands when we were 80. He’s held that throughout, especially during our early years when being loved unconditionally was too painful for me to easily accept…

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I’ve been overwhelming lucky to have five incredible teachers (see my TEDx Talk) then a partner who all call me up.

I describe my life as before and after Ed. Before Ed I allowed fear to drive my bus. The journey with Ed has allowed finally remove fear as my sat nav…

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I was in many awful relationships before Ed, including a horrible marriage. It broke me and I told myself that it was what I deserved. I don’t know your situation now, but I know that it’s possible to go from immense pain and darkness to unimaginable freedom and joy…

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Do not give up on yourself.

Whether your story includes finding fulfilment in a relationship, alone or in a community, you are more powerful than you think.

Never forget this one truth…

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Your past is not a script for your future.

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