Thread by @laurenancona

hey, if you constantly tell stories about how amazingly exceptional your child(ten) is/are

& people tell you your child is some form of neurodivergent

they’re not doing it for fun & laughs

they’re doing it because you’re probably doing some fcked up sht to your kid

really sick of seeing white women in particular come on here using stories about their kids for clout & content ignoring or even mocking when neurodivergent people try to educate them about WHY their child is doing all these ‘amazing’ & ‘exceptional’ kids

everybody’s kid is amazing to them

yours isn’t special, but they may be ND

if somebody tells you your kids sounds like they might have a specific neurotype, your job isn’t to show your nasty ableist behind by complaining when people are tryna help when you obviously need it

if people are telling you your kids has ARFID it’s for a reason

because you can really really screw up a kid’s interoception by forcing them to eat when they don’t want to, or stuff they don’t want to

picky eating is not actually a thing, but sensory aversion certainly are

oh your precocious kid is reading prodigiously early but won’t wear anything but rainbows?

when a BUNCH of people keep telling you the same thing, & you insist they’re wrong without even investigating, I have serious concerns

MOST OF YALL ARE ND TOO

on here it’s a lot of hyperlexic writers that don’t know they’re autistic I see doing it the most

they think because they communicate well they can’t be 🤣

I hope you figure your own ableism & other stuff out so you can stop ignoring your kids needs like this, for their sake

of course this is subtweeting because NDs that don’t know they are have been the most abusive people I’ve ever interacted with, so

just because YOU don’t understand that there are clear patterns, doesn’t mean they’re not there

we’re telling you because medicine is notoriously bad at recognizing these things

we know, we lived through exactly what you’re doing right now, & many of us only found out recently why it sucked so bad

you can listen now or 20 years from now when you kids won’t talk to you

“You mean people told you *publicly* when I was a toddler but you refused to even consider getting me some help or accommodations? You let me go all this time thinking something was wrong with me? Are you serious?”

if this sounds harsh or shockingly worded, good

I’m tired of seeing abuse excused as cluelessness when you’ve been told repeatedly

spare me the ableist shock & pearl clutching bad faith exclamations that you can’t diagnose kids through Twitter

of course you can’t, who is giving out diagnosis?

learn about neurodivergence before you speak

https://twitter.com/Munmun_Princess/status/1683296717985263618?s=20

& I’m calling out white women with white kids on purpose here

the ‘quirky’ stuff your ‘special’ kids do in public like melting down in a store about colors is not safe for kids that aren’t white

yet another way this American exceptionalism nonsense is racist