Thread by @AnchalBhatheja

I am that friend who has zero relationship experience, but is called upon to give advice all the time.
reflections from my inexperience and intuitive estimated solutions, read on-

Overthinking kills maximum number of relationships. Hold that thought there and talk to yourself in third person. Think rationally because inception of love is the death of all rationale

A useful formula is that both people in the relationship should be equally busy at work. Of course it is a professional choice, but it has immense spillover effects on the personal aspects.

Do not have the knight in the shining armour syndrome. You cannot and I repeat you cannot fix anybody.

Make them a very big chunk of your life, but not your life itself. Some distance is necessary, some space is necessary, some time is necessary. You are going to be with you throughout and nobody else

Cannot emphasise enough. Have a friend to rant to and seek second opinion. You feel about them so personally that you can never view the situation objectively. Having an objective perspective which is slightly inclined towards your interest (a friend’s opinion) is super necessary

Set reasonable expectations and seek second opinion if you cannot assess what is reasonable. Be clear in communication and don’t leave them second guessing because they can’t. They are a human being and they can’t anticipate a lot of times.

If they trigger a change in you, that is for the good, go ahead. But don’t change your core values for anybody. Because as I said, you are going to be with you throughout and nobody else.

And don’t be too pragmatic. Every thing eventually ends. My mother passed away after sharing 32 years of her life with my father. The relationship is not a failure because it ended in separation. give it a chance if it comes to you and Luv till it lasts

Lastly, love is not enough. Respect and validation or hallmarks of any relationship. If they don’t give you that, trust me, you are the most important person in the world for you and nobody else. you can’t find love, unless you have it inside you for yourself.

Thanks for reading but a quick reminder that it is not based on any relationship experience. I am completely naive and have just had a lot of deep conversations with people growing through and going through relationships