One professor writes a best-selling parenting guide...
THEN 3 of his own kids commit suicide
Meet John Watson: the father of Behaviorism
A story of scientific arrogance, the meaning of love, and one "expert" with blood on his hands👇🏻
1/ Dr. John Watson was a man of bold claims
He believed he could turn a random infant into “any type of specialist” from doctor to artist to a thief - “regardless of his talents, tendencies, abilities”
How?
With psychological conditioning and other behaviorist tools
2/ John Watson shared these tools with the world in a book co-written with his wife: Psychological Care Of Infant and Child
"Society" comes up 8 times
"Environment” comes up 10 times
"Soul" comes up 0 times
Among other things, the book says a mother’s love is "dangerous"
3/ The book’s central chapter: “Too Much Mother Love”
Which apparently inflicts a “never healing wound” upon kids
Makes adolescence a “nightmare”
And destroys the child’s future employability and “happiness”
Watson: “Never hug and kiss them, never let them sit on your lap.”
4/ Watson taught millions that showing love to kids without reason sets up bad INCENTIVES
The world doesn’t comfort a person for crying, so neither should a mother
Parents must be “objective, and free from sentiment”
Watson walked his talk
Let’s check in on his kids…
5/ Years after Watson’s death, his son gave a tell-all interview:
“We were NEVER shown any kind of emotional closeness. It was absolutely verboten in the family”
Getting close to parents was “taboo”
3/4 of Watson’s kids, from 2 different marriages, tried suicide
One succeeded
6/ Watson's wife doubted her famous husband's “wisdom”
She once revealed her “secret wish” - that “her sons have a tear in their eyes for the poetry and drama of life and a throb for romance”
But in practice all she did was toe her husband's line EVEN when he “wasn’t looking”
7/ Watson’s son:
“My reason for entering therapy was an attempted suicide. I strongly believe that strict adherence to the principles of behaviorism tends to erode the fundamental development of the child’s ego strength and to cause a great deal of difficulty in later life.”
8/ Watson’s kids were never allowed to switch on the “night lights” no matter the thunder storms outside
They weren’t allowed toys either
Their sex ed started at 7
They would later find out that their father always “slept with the light on because of his own dread of the dark”
9/ Watson’s blindspot is modernity's blindspot
Above all he cared about “independence” and “non involvement”
He believed kids shouldn’t “know their own parents” and could be better brought up in communal homes
The world suffers from precisely this atomized vision of humanity
10/ Parenting shouldn’t be an “instinctive art,” Watson said, but a “science”
Millions of years of evolutionary experience do not count
Only lab results count
He wanted the world to “stop having children for twenty years” until the “facts” were found with patient "lab methods”
11/ Strange bedfellows...
12/ For Watson, love was unearned validation that promoted mediocrity
But love is actually unearned faith, and faith is ALWAYS unearned
To be loved is to have someone presuppose value and latent greatness in you without proof - the foundation of self-esteem
As Chesterton said:
The terrible fate of John Watson's children show that genetic blank slatism isn't some harmless idea. It can, and has been, deadly. If genes don't matter, and if environment is all, then man can be twisted into any monstrosity that some arrogant expert or communist planner wants
Bottom line: Ideas have consequences
Terrible ideas have terrible consequences
An offensive truth is infinitely better than a polite lie, because no matter how kind, a lie is a divorce from reality itself, and that can never end well
Reading old books helps you see which modern ideas end in catastrophe
This is why I've collected 750+ insights from 75+ old books in "Hit Reverse"
C.S Lewis almost died in the trench warfare of WW-I
Became best friends with Tolkien. Sold 100 million books...
On the cusp of WW-II, he gave an iconic lecture at Oxford University (1939)
His question: Does beauty matter when bombs start falling?
THIS is his profound answer👇🏻
1/ The permanent human situation is endless strife, chaos and pain
C.S. Lewis:
“Human life has always been lived on the edge of a precipice. Human culture has always had to exist under the shadow of something infinitely more important than itself”
Yet culture breaks out
2/ If we waited for peace to create art the first cave painting would still not be made
Always some “imminent danger” looking more important than culture
Lewis: “If men had postponed the search for knowledge and beauty until they were secure, the search would never have begun”
Disagreeableness has become the most important psychological trait. Everyday there is propaganda to ignore, psyops to reject, perversities to stay out of. The skill and speed with which you say "no" will determine how far you go
You evolved for a better signal:noise ratio. You have no internal defense against breaking news, algo-driven scrolling, 24/7 entertainment on tap, marketing on full blast, nefarious psyops, etc. So you have to build a defense system and then internalize it. Become disagreeable
90% of modern creativity advice is "be curious." But curiosity tethered to no higher principles, limited by no formal requirements, is just you collecting random data points until you drown in them. There's so much untapped creativity alpha in disagreeableness
There is a reason your creative juices start flowing in airplanes and long road-trips
I call it the "Kinetic Stillness Paradox" and I found this principle at play in the lives of nobodies like:
- JK Rowling
- Charles Darwin
- Albert Einstein
Let's dig in:
1/ 600 million people have read Harry Potter books—where was this iconic character born? In a train, as JK Rowling sat still for 4 hours, too shy to ask someone for a pen, mentally noting all details as the idea “simply fell" into her head
Harry Potter, inception location: train
2/ The theory of evolution rocked the foundations of religion, culture...even politics. Where was Charles Darwin when the eureka moment hit him? A horse-carriage...he remembered the "very spot in the road" 4 decades later
Theory of evolution, inception location: a horse-carriage
1/ Love precedes lovability: "Men did not love Rome because she was great. She was great because they had loved her."
1/ Love precedes lovability because a "primary devotion" to a place, thing, or person is the source of the creative energy that transforms it. Begin with love, not scorn. Commitment beautifies
2/ Modern streets are "noisy with taxicabs and motorcars," but that's the noise of "laziness and fatigue," not activity. If everyone walked, streets would be quieter but more alive. Modern thought is like a modern street - noisiness, long words, loud ideas...hiding laziness
You can do almost anything with a phone - and that's Bad, Actually
Because you can do anything, you end up doing nothing
The best tools are constrained and specific. They do you a favor by limiting you...
Thread:
1/ On a typewriter you cannot stream movies, check stock prices, or play online chess. You can only write. On a camera you cannot tweet, google trivia, or order groceries. You can only click. These older tools gave you a tunnel vision that their advanced alternatives just cannot
2/ If the only tool you have is a hammer, then all your problems look like nails. If the only tool you have is a 7 inch flat screen, then all your problems look like pixel arrangement problems. That is Objectively False. Real problems demand more than tapping, clicking, coding