(1/X) I wanted to do one another thread about narcissistic sociopaths because I've been dealing with one a lot lately. I think there probably is some kind of a method for dealing with them but it is complicated because...
(2/X) They behave in a way that makes no sense to others, so it is difficult to have a plan for how to deal with them, as there is no way to predict what they will do next.
(3/X) This is often their ultimate undoing (if Trump had behaved normally about COVID, he probably would have won, if Hitler hadn't invaded Russia...), but it means that in a sense they are always the actors and you are always stuck responding...
(4/X) Because there is way to do any advance planning. There is no way to anticipate their actions. This is compounded by the fact that they are good at spinning the disaster after effects of their not-thought-through actions...
(5/X) They will just say that is what they meant to do or make up some reason for why they did it or others will do that for them. Look at Putin in Ukraine. He did it for his own ego, and it's been a failure...
(6/X) But there is no shortage of people to make up reasons for why he did it (NATO expansion etc.) and to claim that fighting Ukraine to a draw is great Russian victory. He's unlikely to lose his grip on power...
(7/X) Narcissistic sociopaths are also vindictive and scare people. The combination of complete unpredictability and extreme nastiness is very scary. "Just don't make them angry" is the response many have (with Trump for example)...
(8/X) A classic example is universities where the administration is typically more afraid of abusers (who are often narcissistic sociopaths) than of the abused. The abusers are more likely to sue or make trouble, so the university typically takes their side.
(9/X) This is what I am dealing with right now. What is the solution to this imbalance? I don't know.
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