If you had a mind to go through everything I ever tweeted, you’d find where I had a spat with James from Depher a long time ago… because he was routinely reporting every family he dealt with for poverty to social services.
That’s violence.
Looks like that’s not come to light?
That would have been on main, for all to see, I then said nothing further publicly, assuming as most did, that the charity (or CIC) was doing some good.
I hated the sad old people posts. But I didn’t yet see much other criticism of it and I didn’t want to get mired in a fight.
And also because everyone (absolutely everyone) on the internet who writes about poverty, has ever fundraised, has ever had complaints about how they can’t afford something, every single one, including me, gets called a “grifter”. Frankly, the word has no fucking meaning anymore.
The same groups of people who style themselves as “investigators” do batshit unhinged things to hundreds of targets- (like making a map of every sailing club in the region where they were sure I lived, to try to identify the one I said I had been to). It’s harassment, mostly…
95% of what the rumour mill throws up (and I can tell you this from having been close to some of the people who have been put through it) is a compelling but desperately flawed narrative which is super plausible, and not actually correct.
Sometimes, like now, it strikes oil.
James isn’t a good man. He didn’t run a good business/charity/CIC. The forms to apply for help were the most intrusive I have ever seen and I have probably seen the forms for every major charity that does grants. I favour Turn2Us for home emergencies by the way. If you need one…
Nor could he be trusted with any of that information. That’s another thing I was mad about.
If you work with the vulnerable (I did, before I had ME) then safeguarding must be coded in from day zero. Even if his posts had been at-least true, they were gross violations of trust.
But I caution against leaning too into this “internet sleuth” thing, because these people are more often desperately dangerous and extraordinarily twisted, than they are worthy and reasonable. When journalism as a profession is more moral than you by some way…? Yeah that bad.
James deserves jail time if he’s proven in court to have done what the BBC are pretty confident he has- ripped off at least hundreds of thousands, if not millions, of pounds destined for critical poverty support.
But very much beware of the trolls. These are no heroes either.
And before you wonder have I heard about me?
Yes mate.
And I have the home security to show for it.
Not even my cat remains unthreatened.
It’s a cesspool out there.
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Never in my fucking life have I felt like I should make sure I am clamming every single possible benefit I fucking can, by tooth or claw, and have it all damnit, stockpile the lot… but all of a sudden I get it. I am angry enough to get it. Something has snapped today…
I was hauling myself up out of my fucking wheelchair (that I didn’t get paid for by the state) into a hairdressing chair (that also wasn’t paid for by the fucking state) to get the first haircut I have had in probably a year (thanks very much to the neglect of the state)…
Chatting away about how I met my boyfriend, as one does, with hairdressers, and my car gets a mention in this story (tell you another day, maybe)…
I remember when the worst of the crisis hit. Seriously ill and still in the initial cope stage, I was both unable to work and not recognised as such for benefits. I had 2 kids in primary school and we suddenly couldn’t remain in our home, so had to rent another immediately.
I moved into a completely empty house with a table someone had found in the back of their garage, some borrowed 1970s hard plastic chairs even Church wouldn’t use and one borrowed air mattress (which we quickly punctured). I had a microwave, a kettle and a slow cooker.
I’m too sick to be here tonight, but we need all hands on deck for the call to #ExposeME now.
I’m not allowed to give blood because it is known that M.E can be transferred in plasma (it is a cellular level physical illness) and at the same time I am told it’s all in my head?
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I’m told I am not sick I just don’t have the balls to stand up for myself as a woman. I just don’t want dick, or kids, or domestic chores and don’t dare say so lest you think me not nice!
I’m a working class, bisexual, Gen-X battle-axe. This is a ludicrous stereotype on me!
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It’s all about the “secondary benefits” they say.
Today I have been helped to the toilet once, given a slice of yesterdays quiche, 2 coffees, asked to mediate 4 kid conflicts as I cried in pain and replied by email to a telling off from school for a kid in the wrong trousers.
For 40 years Drs have insisted ME patients are mad & medically tortured us. Refusing to be tortured gets you locked up. The torture injures or kills >80% of patients subject to it.
Today a study dropped proving ME is what science proved it was in the 80s: virus damage to cells.
They wanted to do the torture to me. It goes by the name of GET. It causes you to damage more and more of your cells until you lose key abilities, like walking.
I don’t mean like I have issues walking most days, I mean at all, never walk again levels of harm. Or bedbound…
Twitter saved me. Other people with ME said, listen, you need to know about this, this is not what it appears to be.
When it was clear to me that this was the way the “ME specialist” was going I “forgot” forms, missed calls and gave vague answers, until they tired and gave up…
Undercover journalists have impersonated every kind of human you can imagine, at some point: Hunt sabs, Indonesian businessmen, Amazon warehouse staff, pregnant women, combatants in a war, everything...
If faking disability for huge payoffs was so easy Parris would have done it.
The reason you don't have undercover exposes of how easy it is to live lavishly on state benefits just from saying the magic words you found on Google, is because that doesn't exist.
Isn't a thing.
Might as well write a dispatch from Narnia.
It's fucking bullshit.
You can try. Feel free. If a journalist wants to have a go, I will be your researcher on this. I'm totally sincere.
Because you will fail.
You can't part-time this.
There is no sneaking away at the end of the night to chill in the pub.
Can't sleep so here's a thread about what *actually* would help with getting the long term unemployed, or sick and disabled back into work.
As you read this remember, any or all of these only help *some* of us. Many aren't able to work under *any* circumstances...
2. Meaningful discrimination legislation: Many people simply need employers with a better attitude to make available the reasonable adjustments mandated in law. It might be the law but it means nothing because it's fiendishly hard to enforce.
3. Travel: Airlines smash wheelchairs. Train stations don't maintain their lifts. Bus drivers pull off without disabled passengers because they can't be bothered to ask abled passengers to move. Taxis frequently decline guide dogs. Blue badge parking is disappearing. Etc.