Training in psychotherapy begins in earnest when it finally sinks in that giving advice doesn't help
And it sinks in that common-sense solutions haven’t helped and won’t help now
Meaningful psychotherapy is not an extension of common sense. It is something else entirely.
2/ It’s fair to ask WHY advice and commonsense solutions don't help
There’s a lot to say about his, but ONE crucial reason (among many others) is that the problem you see on the surface is rarely the problem that therapy needs to address
There is the *surface* problem or the
3/ “manifest” problem—and then there are the underlying psychological problems that give rise to it, and that have gotten in the way of all previous efforts to address it
In other words, there is WAY more going on than meets the eye. What you see is almost never what you get
4/ Advice and common sense solutions take the surface or manifest problem to be “the” problem, but it almost never is
We can say say that advice and commonsense solutions are focus on “first-order” causes. Meaningful psychotherapy addresses 2nd and 3rd (and Nth) order causes
5/ And the skill of the expert therapist is in understanding and knowing how to work with those 2nd and Nth order psychological causes
This is why meaningful psychotherapy requires real expertise & many years of training. *We are not addressing the same problems*
6/ This is why psychotherapy is so often misunderstood by others
This is why therapists who are still trying to give advice or provide "commonsense” solutions are not expert therapists. Their psychotherapy training never began in earnest. No matter what degrees they have, or how
7/ how many years of experience they have, they are operating with a beginner-level understanding of human psychology, and they are providing beginner-level psychotherapy
“Training in psychotherapy begins in earnest when it finally sinks in that giving advice doesn't help”
/8 Another way of saying this: therapists who offer advice & commonsense solutions have a “theory of mind” that’s really no different from a layperson—and not a foundation for the work of psychotherapy
They’re relying on the same commonsense “folk psychology” as their patients
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2/ In historic usage, it referred to taking a position (as a matter of *technique,* aimed at self-knowledge) equidistant from id, ego, & superego—terms that no longer hold currency in contemporary psychoanalytic theory, and that are now meaningless to most
So here’s an update:
3/ The term is a recognition that we humans are of many minds about many things, there is inner contradiction, and the contradictions can be at any level of conscious awareness
“Neutrality” means helping the person become aware of all of the inner facets and contraductions,
1/ Depressive Personality Style
“Despite its omission from the DSM, depressive personality is the most common personality syndrome seen in clinical practice. It is a personality syndrome in every sense of the term: an enduring pattern of psychological functioning evident by
2/ adolescence and encompassing the full spectrum of personality processes.
People with depressive personalities are chronically vulnerable to painful affect, especially feelings of inadequacy, sadness, guilt, and shame. They have difficulty recognizing their needs, and when
3/ they do recognize them, they have difficulty expressing them. They are often conflicted about allowing themselves pleasure. They may seem driven by an unconscious wish to punish themselves, either by getting into situations destined to cause pain or depriving themselves of
1/6 The goal of psychotherapy is to insert spaces for noticing and reflecting where space has not previously existed—and thereby create opportunities to know ourselves more fully, connect with others more deeply, and live our lives more congruently
2/6 Psychotherapy is about slowing things down—so we can begin to see and understand patterns and responses that otherwise happen quickly, automatically, without awareness or understanding
3/6 Talk about “optimizing” psychotherapy or making it more “efficient” betrays a fundamental misunderstanding
We find ourselves in difficulties specifically because we *cannot* slow down to notice and reflect. The rush to optimize every facet of life is the disease—not the cure
1/ This post is misleading. The research does NOT show people who get these CBT treatments get well—what people take “effective” to mean. Overwhelming majority do NOT. They do better than a control group, which is a totally different issue
Not to do better than a control group which gets no treatment that’s meant to help (or no treatment at all)
This is why people have become so skeptical of “experts.” What they get isn’t what they’re led to expect
3/ It’s really important to understand WHAT GOES WRONG when findings from therapy outcome research get reported to the public
The research yields quantitative findings. Tons and tons of them. No one without a serious (professional level) understanding of statistic AND knowledge
1/ The essence of real psychotherapy is exploring and understanding why things go wrong, so we don't have to keep repeating the same painful, self-defeating patterns
👉 But... many poorly-trained therapists cannot differentiate between exploring and understanding vs. BLAMING
2/ When they confuse exploration with blaming, they’re trapped. Psychological inquiry can lead only to (1) blaming the patient or (2) blaming the patient’s problems on someone or something else
👉They can’t blame the patient, because they’re
3/ supposed to “support” the patient
So someone or something else *must* be blamed: toxic people, parents, partner, narcissists, abusers, predators, society, the “system”
When therapists are trapped in this way of thinking, the patient is also trapped