My mother has a problem comprehending why I don’t talk to a lot of my friends anymore.
The fact that they don’t Act the same, Care the same and Love the same is something she just can’t grasp.
I tried showing her a friend’s FB page where she announced the death of her sister and her best friend being in the ICU on the same post around 9:18 AM last Tuesday, and then around 6:00 PM posted happy-faced selfies and asking people on FB which outfit should she wear over the weekend to Myrtle Beach.
(Her sister and best friend are in 90% of her photos with her since 2012).
I showed her similar posts from other friends throughout this year who posted “pray for me, I have some virus, never been this sick….” Then a few days or weeks later -back to the crowded concerts, restaurants, bare-faced and smiling again.
I scrolled down their profile where four of them had messages from other friends on their FB pages months later stating how they woke up to reading that they have passed…
RIP…etc.
Then a few days later, all the funeral pictures are tagged with other Maskless friends that I grew up with or went to school with attending their funeral.
These behaviors are all too bizarre, uneasy, and illogical for me to participate in and to be around. So I don’t.
The only way that I could get through to my Mom was to talk about Teams. She is big on being on Committees and contributing to a Cause. So I explained….
Every Team has a goal. It is to Win…Succeed…Find a Solution…Complete…etc.
Nowhere is the goal is to Lose…Leave Unfinished….Fail.
Those who don’t want the team to Succeed are called Sabatogers.
My end game is to Win which means to me….Stay Healthy and Live….AND for my family to Live through this as well.
The opposing Team’s end game is to do whatever everyone else is doing, with short spurts of temporary happiness, sprinkled in with constant illnesses.
The opposing Team has accepted chronic illnesses and death as part of their business plan. I have not.
We aren’t on the same Team.
I think that a lot of us feel that way….and for awhile it was difficult to explain, but as we quickly are approaching year 5…it’s just that simple.
We are not on the same Team.
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Several weeks ago, I posted about my 8 year-old niece who contracted Covid 4x during the last school year, and is now suffering from significant memory loss.
Recently, I picked her up to take her apple picking and noticed a drastic personality change.
The always bubbly little girl was extremely withdrawn and quiet.
Sometime during the day, I went to the restroom while she she stayed outside with my daughter. When I returned, she didn’t recognize me and backed up as I approached her. I asked her if she knew who I was…
Her response was “I think so.” After about 10 minutes, she asked if I was Aunt Chuan. I said yes. She told me that “I think that I forget a lot.”
Three weeks ago, she got Covid again…which has now affected her verbal processing skills.
My SIL, who WAS one of the few people that I know that STILL had logic and reasoning skills said that my niece’s lack of facial recognition, memory, and processing skills is due to having too much homework😳…and she didn’t remember that a neurological assessment was scheduled for her this month.
Several years ago I had a friend whom I cared about more than she cared for herself. It was absolutely draining as I watched helplessly her being abused by the men in her life. 1/17
There was one man who was engaged when she met him and somehow she thought that he would treat her better than the woman he had been with for 6 years and was due to marry the following weekend. 2/17
She was ecstatic when he took the ring from his fiancé the weekend of his wedding to present to her 2 months later. 3/17
Covid was briefly discussed on Thursday’s call as the presenter mentioned that the positivity rate across the U.S. is 39.6%. One person in Texas asked if that were really true. The presenter then said, “sorry, it’s more like 40.1%. He mentioned ER, UC, paxlovid prescribing, 1/4
wastewater data, and another metric that I couldn’t really hear, but then he started calling on people randomly and asking them how many people (outside of work) do they know had Covid. One person knew 11 people. Most knew between 3-5 people…and then he said…2/4
“I’ve never met someone who has said I loved it when I got Covid. I want that feeling again.
No, they say I don’t ever want Covid again, but then they don’t do anything to not get Covid.
That’s really strange right? We are going to be diving deeper into that.” 3/4
I met with a Medical Director in a Neurology Group a few weeks ago. Outside of his locations are signs that read “No Mask No Entry Until Further Notice.” 1/13
He shared with me how he used to treat only Parkinson’s patients in his practice but had to contract with other physicians that specialize in the growing number of patients with Multiple Sclerosis, Headache Disorders, and Strokes. 2/13
He stated that the volume of patients had increased by 75% especially over the last 2 years when Covid mitigations were dropped.
I asked him what made these patients different from those patients that he would see in the years before Covid. 3/13
The Covid Twilight Zone-
My daughter and I were verbally attacked LOUDLY for wearing Masks. What makes this more heartbreaking is there was absolutely no one in the area that look like us EXCEPT the person who attacked us. 1/13
It was clear that He wanted to make sure everyone knew that he wasn’t like THOSE Black people…No one gave him the validation he was seeking and as soon as he commented on our Masks and received no applause he literally RAN away like the punk he is…2/13
Dude! An encounter with me is Never Good. He was about to find out! 3/13
Several weeks ago, I made the decision to limit access to me. My FB feed was becoming the new obituary page. Even after dozens of postings about Covid case counts, Covid deaths, Covid long term symptoms, new deadly rising mutations, friends and their family were dying off. 1/7
If there were an “aha” moment..it only lasted until the next date on their social calendar.
My cousin who would call after my Covid posts has lost her Mom, 2 sisters, a brother, a brother-in-law, and a sister-in-law. None of them made life adjustments to combat Covid. 2/7
In early April, she called to asked if I was still doing the “Covid thing.” I shared with her the correlation between Covid and sudden deaths..even in our family. She then said that she was making plans to go to Vegas that month & going on a cruise the first week in May. 3/7