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“Your test results are normal”

“You don’t look that sick”

“What do you want ME to do about it?”

Healthcare workers - there’s a myriad of conditions that are quite serious and debilitating but will have “normal” test results.

So what DO we want you to do? 🧵/1
We want you to listen to us. Believe us when we tell you something is wrong. Trust us that we are the experts in our own body - and we aren’t coming to you for “fun”

We’re coming to you because we can’t fix ourselves - we need your help. /2
Get curious. Standard labs are just that - “standard”. Most standard tests were also designed and taught based on male patients - females can and do have a different definition of “normal”.

We want you to think outside the box. /3
Ask us questions. Get to know us. A thorough history where you really pay attention to the patient can give you WAY more clues than a standard set of vitals and blood work.
/4
Don’t rush to judgement. Try and put aside bias and pre-conceived notions. It’s lazy medicine to assume a problem is because of someone’s weight - or to automatically dismiss them as anxious just because they’re wearing a mask. /5
Remember that we’re people too - we aren’t just a set of symptoms on paper.

We are complex individuals and every one of us is unique. What might be “normal” for one person might be wildly abnormal for others. /6
I will use myself as an example …I had a life threatening internal bleed & abdominal infection following my hysterectomy. It was missed THREE times at the ER. Why?

Because to them my triage vitals were “normal enough.” My BP was high FOR ME - but they didn’t know my “normal” /7
My temperature was elevated but again - not enough to warrant concern. I tried to tell them that my baseline temperature runs two degrees below normal - they chose not to listen.

They didn’t even run basic labs or perform an abdominal exam. /8
Later in life this happened again when I was constantly fainting but my heart tests came back “normal”.

Once again I was told nothing was wrong because no one was willing to think outside the box. /9
I had dysautonomia - and my fainting was being caused by POTS. Most patients with this condition will have a “normal” cardiac work up. Which is why you have to listen & perform additional tests.

A simple stand test or 24 hour urine would have alerted them to the issue /10
So what we want you to do is your job. We want you to help us figure out what’s wrong. We want you to stop dismissing us on the basis of standard tests that don’t uncover the lions share of chronic illnesses. /11
We want to feel safe in your care again. Wear a mask. Treat us with respect and dignity. Let us be partners. Don’t discount symptoms just because YOU can’t find a cause - validate our concerns and refer us to someone who CAN figure it out /12
Two of the most powerful phrases a doctor can utter are:

“I don’t know what’s wrong but I’m going to find out”

“I’m sorry I was wrong”

I know they hate saying sorry due to fear of liability - but it means the world to the patient /13
When you get a diagnosis wrong - you alter the course of our lives. We push ourselves because you convince us it’s “all in our head.” We may sustain additional damage - or worse - lose our lives.

If ever there was a time to say sorry - it’s when you got the diagnosis wrong. /14
Unmitigated covid spread is causing a huge increase in patients with complex chronic illness - let’s work together to help them get answers and treatments faster than those of us who came before.

Let’s stop gaslighting & dismissing and start believing patients. /end
This thread underscores the need to have an advocate with you at all times - someone to push for you NOT to be dismissed.

My next article will focus on how my POTS was misdiagnosed as “anxiety” or “nothing wrong” for years…. And the damage it did:

disabledginger.com/p/how-to-be-an…
ER staff missed a life threatening post operative infection and bleed because they were too focused on “averages”. They didn’t listen to me when I said my BP and temperature were wildly off “for me”.

Listen to your patients. It could safe a life:

disabledginger.com/p/my-most-dang…

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Nov 2
A few weeks ago - I had a sudden and severe MCAS reaction that landed me in hospital.

I had just washed my hair (which can be a trigger) and was trying to eat dinner when it happened.

I assumed it was the food - so stopped eating & went to lay down.

I was very wrong 🧵/1
Food - even safe food - is often a trigger for me. My “bucket” is full all the time because my MCAS is out of control in summer and fall.

If I do something that requires exertion - like washing my hair - it will generally mean I’m more reactive for the next 24-48 hours /2
As a result I assumed the food was the culprit. I put it away, took rescue meds and tried to lay down and meditate until the worst had passed.

Except it wasn’t passing. My heart was pounding. I was sweating, dizzy and had terrible tinnitus. I began vomiting uncontrollably. /3
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Oct 30
If you’re dealing with a COVID infection - remember it’s NOT your fault.

Those of us trying to avoid COVID & break chains of transmission have been failed by governments & public health. We’ve been left by the wayside.

It’s hard to avoid when NO ONE else is even trying. /1 🧵
I’m always sad when I see people blaming others for getting covid (or worse - blaming themselves).

There’s only so much a single person can do when covid is everywhere and most people refuse to acknowledge it (let alone mask or stay home) /2
This is extra applicable if you have young children or work in a public facing role where you’re exposed to large numbers of people every day.

When collective whole gives up & decides to accept constant infection & reinfection - it becomes harder for those of us still trying /3
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Oct 29
When I was first diagnosed with MCAS I thought “a condition I can control!”

I genuinely believed that since there were clear & obvious triggers - I could put in the work, overhaul my life and be free of attacks.

When a patient plans - mast cells laugh 🧵/1
I threw myself into research trying to learn how to adopt a low histamine diet, clean my air and change my body care and cleaning products.

I (falsely) assumed that if I made enough changes - sacrificed HARD enough - I wouldn’t have to deal with flare ups. /2
It was exhausting. Many of the changes DID help. A low histamine diet, cleaner air, a proper med and supplement schedule and non toxic cleaning products all helped to reduce my overall “bucket” so that my symptoms were less severe. /3
Read 12 tweets
Oct 28
A progressive male “friend” recently told me that he “only wants to date virgins” from now on. He’s 42.

I asked why - since he never cared in the past.

He said that “women are becoming too loose and it’s eroding family values. They should get married & procreate sooner” 🧵/1
I was shocked. This “friend” never even wanted marriage and children. He wasn’t conservative and balked at traditional family values.

Now he’s telling me that women need to get married younger so they don’t have the “chance” to become “loose.” /2
I asked whether he had considered how unlikely he was to find a virgin at his age - and he said he had but that just shows “how far we’ve allowed women to stray.”

That if they’re unmarried in their 40s - they should have the self control to “wait”. /3
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Oct 27
The early days of the pandemic were scary for everyone - but for many disabled people there were also rays of hope.

We saw the world become more inclusive seemingly overnight - providing services like telemedicine & remote work - which we had spent years begging for. 🧵/1
I also had hope that we were finally going to make real progress on chronic illness. That Long Covid would be “too big to ignore.”

That we would start being proactive with our health and work towards keeping people healthy and really HELPING those who were chronically ill. /2
I genuinely still can’t believe that 400 million people are suffering from Long Covid. The numbers are growing every day yet we do nothing.

No progress has been made on the comorbids either. I had POTS and MCAS before covid - and my treatments haven’t improved at all /3
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Oct 23
Misogyny in medicine is focusing more on what a man might WANT than what a woman NEEDS.

I NEEDED a hysterectomy and was told I wouldn’t survive pregnancy.

“Informed consent” for surgery looked like this:

“Don’t you want to be a Mom?”
“You may want BIOLOGICAL children”
/1 🧵
“What if you meet a man who wants babies?”

“What if he leaves you because you can’t bear his children?”

“Men went their OWN babies - what if you can’t do that?”

“You will feel like less of a woman.”

/2
Brought boyfriend in to try and change their minds. Them to him:

“Will you still love her if she’s BARREN?”

“Do you want kids?”

“What if you change your mind & want kids - will you LEAVE her?”

Him: “Save her life what I want doesn’t matter” (he understood the assignment) /3
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