I co-founded a startup as CTO,
had Lego, McKinsey, and Macy as customers,
entered the best b2b accel in the world,
moved to SF...
But one event turned my 15% stake into 0.15% 🥴:
1. Beginning
I was a CTO in startups in an incubator. On a Friday beer, I was approached by an old man;
He quickly broke the ice, touched my shoulder & behaved like an old friend.
It looked random to me, but it wasn’t.
Years later, he revealed: “I moved here to get hunt you.”
2. CoFounder.
He had an idea for a hardware startup, a machine that looked like Apple made it.
I spent years building websites and apps, so jumping into hardware felt so compelling.
I joined him as a CTO and co-founder for 15% of the company.
3. Rich Man.
He was a rich man with a huge house in the best luxury area of the city, with a big exit in the past.
He kept saying: “I can’t do this without you..”.
He was a master of psychology, and I'd do anything for him, he was my mentor, almost my father.
It was very inspiring, I did my best job ever over the the few years.
I worked days and nights, some days I worked 20 hours, slept on the office couch, and continued.
We had many orders, and I was putting the software and hardware together, driving it to the clients, and installing it.
I was obsessed,
My girlfriend left me because we didn’t see each other at all but I didn't even notice it.
4. Living A Dream
Things were going really well.
We met @jack (founder of Twitter and Square) in SF and presented our machine.
We partnered up with his company, which was doing the payment stands, to use it for our machine.
We raised money from investors, got into the best B2B accelerator in the world, and he moved to Silicon Valley into a mansion.
5. Departure & hints.
My cofounder onboarded more people and issued them a generous equity package. I asked "Why do u just give away equity?".
He said: "don't worry, I know how to get it back later".
I'll learn what he meant here later, the hard way.
While things were going really well, I had a burnout.
Since my girlfriend left me, I felt very demoralized and lonely once I realized I was alone now.
After working 100 hours a week for 3 years and having zero days off (no kidding, literally, I worked 1000 days in a row), I realized that I needed a change.
I recently became a father, but my cofounder insisted that I move from Oslo to SF.
I went there, but it didn't work for me to be away from my kid.
My personal life was a total mess, I broke up with the mother of my child.
The cofounder was so good at manipulating my brain that I was like a puppet.
I realized I wanted to be my own boss.
I decided to leave.
I spent a year on hiring more people and finding a new guy to replace me as CTO. The replacement went very well, so eventually, I switched to a part-time advisory role.
6. Poor Founder Risk.
I kept working part-time for him but also moved on with my new startup.
One strange thing I noticed is that we were burning money like crazy. I thought my cofounder had prepared new funding and knew what he was doing.
A few months later, I got an email from the board.
They were planning a new funding round.
First, I was happy about that; it meant my shares would be worth more.
But it turned out they were planning an internal down-round, where all investors had to put money in.
I was the only shareholder who wasn't rich. It was relatively average money for all the investors, but for me, it was more than I could afford.
Since I owned 15% and couldn’t participate in the round, my 15% was diluted to 0.15%.
7. How is that legal?
In a VC-funded startup, it’s very easy to lose almost all your equity if the startup decides to have an internal round and issue new shares.
It may have 100 shares, I own 15 and others own 85. Then, it may issue 1000 shares, where each costs 10k. So I’d have to put 150k to stay with my 15%. (the numbers aren’t real, just for an example).
So, this was the end of the story for me. Also I learned an important lesson here.
8. The moral:
Owning equity in a startup doesn’t protect you.
Rich investors can kick you out of your own company at any time if you're not important to it.
I'm not doing VC-backed startups again.
Only bootstrapping and self-funding.
( It's extremely negative.
An unfiltered truth.
Proceed at your own risk )
1/ There is no easy, quick, risk-free & proven way to succeed.
Everyone who gives this promise lies.
99% of makers fail on their 1st, 2nd, and Nth try.
Don't be fooled by super rare success stories of an 18yo college dropout on TechCrunch. Those odds are lower than a lottery.
2/ Any successful person has spent way more time before their "overnight" success than it might seem.
I may start a product today and reach $30k MRR in 6 months. Can I teach you this? NO!
I can do that because I've spent 20 years building startups.
This video perfectly explains why most founders fail despite being skilled, smart & working hard!
Let me explain what I mean 🧵:
(watch the vid til the end before reading this thread)
1/ The smarter you are, the higher the chance to fail by heroically solving difficult challenges that aren't important.
You work hard, you solve difficult problems, but world doesn't care. Because it's not about the complexity of the problem but all about relevancy.
2/ Most think the word "focus" means working on just one project. But this is not what Steve Jobs and others meant.
Focus is saying no to the tasks you wanna jump on because you want to. Because you must focus on tasks the BUSINESS wants you to do. Not the tasks YOU want to do.
1. I remember 2010-2018 being so promising for the Oslo startup scene.
Grants, VCs & innovation vibe.
500-Startups investing in our startup; Cool Silicon Valley vibe in Startuplab, where we shared the space with future unicorns(Kahoot, Xeneta, Oda).
The future looked so bright!
2. After covid lockdowns, everything slowed down.
Everyone had trouble raising new rounds.
Then, the interest rates went up, and the funding scene collapsed.
90% of founders I knew didn't manage to raise their next round and went out of business or scaled down.
We all are capable of these. The more you think about yourself as a non-evil, the higher the chance you actually are. The best way to tackle this is to accept all three and not hide from it.
E.g. kids do lots of evil actions and evil thoughts. We judge them for it, but instead, I want them to understand it. When someone does evil, judging them makes them deny the reality and they just hide from the fact.
So my approach is to teach them to integrate evil, heroism, and love within them and understand that they are capable of it as well as others.
Whenever someone does evil, it doesn't mean they are bad. Also, if someone shows love, it doesn't mean they are good.
There are no good or bad people. There are certain setups where people do certain actions.
2) Suffering.
I want them to seek suffering and understand that it's the only way forward. Literally, anything worthwhile in life requires suffering.
The modern world is so comfortable, and modern parents treat their kids like pets.
I don't try to remove suffering from their life. In fact, I try to make sure they have as much as they can handle.
It's perfectly possible to do this and also show love at the same time.
Every month, I pay $15,000 for 88 third-party subscriptions.
Idk why bootstrapped founders glorify profit margins,
I'm willing to pay anything it takes to buy back my time to spend with my wife and kids.
All products I pay for 🧵:
Hosting & Cloud:
1. Digital Ocean for hosting. 2. AWS for hosting, storage, and CDN. 3. Hetzner for bare metal. 4. Heroku for db hosting. 5. Monovm for hosting. 6. Google Cloud. 7. Github for teams. 8. Vercel for nextjs hosting. 9. Supabase as CMS and DB. 10. MONGODB Atlas for NoSQL DB 11. Microsoft Azure websites and tables
Web and Dev Tools
12. Apify Web Automation 13. Notion for docs 14. Figma for design and mockups 15. Canva for videos 16. Excalidraw for wireframes 17. BunnyCDN for images 18. TWILIO for SMS 19. Sendgrid for emails 20. Sensorpro for emails 21. Tailwind kits(bought a ton) 22. IMGIX for image resizer 23. ScreenshotOne for screenshot API 24. UploadCare for image upload and storage 25. Scrapingbee to scrape the internet
5 years ago, I needed 30 people & $3M in funding to build just one startup,
Today, I run 11 bootstrapped SaaS projects with just a handful of people.
These AI agents & tools 10x busy founders in marketing, coding, legal, operations, design, sales, anything 🧵 :
1. Software development
- Replit AI (most advanced, with self-correction and hosting)
- Bolt from Stackblitz (a new tool that moves faster than the rest)
- v0 from Vercel (best for frontends)
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