The older I get the more I realise the deep truth of what someone told me on the first day of my first real job at the construction site: "don't apologise/say you're not gonna do it wrong again, just don't do it wrong again" (Danish translation, language and idiom stuff).
On the surface it sounds like some yoda bullshit about believing in yourself, but there is something fundamental there that is deep and true. It's about The difference between thinking and doing, intellect and will,
and a rootin tootin lifelong construction guy telling acedemic twink druggie loser that, was in hindsight very profound.
I had done some task wrong, and in my head of language and theory, it was important to me, to myself, to articulate and express a heartfelt apology, that fully explained and communicated to him that I understood what was happening.
But literally nowhere in life is that ever a priority, outside of writing academic papers, or debate club, or being a YouTube looser. That's a tiny tiny specialised subset of life, and it's not a skill that actually helps you in life, outside of "laboratory conditions"
You don't have to tell everyone your plans, you just have to do them. You don't have to tell everyone "oh man I am really grateful for the chance you're all giving me and starting tomorrow I'll redouble my efforts and write Internet blogs every day".
If you do you're just gonna be apologising all the time, and that is not gonna make people like you more. People don't like you because of the things you do wrong, regardless of how good you are at admitting it. They like you for the good things you do do. This should be obvious
But it's not, when you are of a particular nervous temperament, and if you haven't had a point in your life where you bottomed out and had to join the working class and was bestowed life wisdom from a carpenter you worked with for 2 weeks
You don't have to tell your wife about all the things you decide you're gonna do better, you just have to do them. Talking about them is, in fact, not doing them
You don't have to tell people your plans and you don't need to wait for everyone to be on the same page, before you start. You don't have to passively ask for permission. You can just do things
"You can just do things" also means being a better man and correcting mistakes and improving.
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