The older I get the more I realise the deep truth of what someone told me on the first day of my first real job at the construction site: "don't apologise/say you're not gonna do it wrong again, just don't do it wrong again" (Danish translation, language and idiom stuff).
On the surface it sounds like some yoda bullshit about believing in yourself, but there is something fundamental there that is deep and true. It's about The difference between thinking and doing, intellect and will,
and a rootin tootin lifelong construction guy telling acedemic twink druggie loser that, was in hindsight very profound.
I had done some task wrong, and in my head of language and theory, it was important to me, to myself, to articulate and express a heartfelt apology, that fully explained and communicated to him that I understood what was happening.
But literally nowhere in life is that ever a priority, outside of writing academic papers, or debate club, or being a YouTube looser. That's a tiny tiny specialised subset of life, and it's not a skill that actually helps you in life, outside of "laboratory conditions"
You don't have to tell everyone your plans, you just have to do them. You don't have to tell everyone "oh man I am really grateful for the chance you're all giving me and starting tomorrow I'll redouble my efforts and write Internet blogs every day".
If you do you're just gonna be apologising all the time, and that is not gonna make people like you more. People don't like you because of the things you do wrong, regardless of how good you are at admitting it. They like you for the good things you do do. This should be obvious
But it's not, when you are of a particular nervous temperament, and if you haven't had a point in your life where you bottomed out and had to join the working class and was bestowed life wisdom from a carpenter you worked with for 2 weeks
You don't have to tell your wife about all the things you decide you're gonna do better, you just have to do them. Talking about them is, in fact, not doing them
You don't have to tell people your plans and you don't need to wait for everyone to be on the same page, before you start. You don't have to passively ask for permission. You can just do things
"You can just do things" also means being a better man and correcting mistakes and improving.
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The only red pill, political, race or sex wise is this: you cannot avoid confrontation just by being nice and having good intentions, because you ultimately cannot control other people, and some of them want to hurt you for bad reasons, and you can't argue them out of it, you can only stop them with force, and force them not to. If the other declares war on you, you have to win the war, and force him to behave. And this is a universal law of human affairs, and you have been victimised in the past because you were naive, and you thought giving up would impress your antagonist, and now for the rest of your life you have the option of either accepting that humiliation, into your ego and self conception, that you have been victimised, or, you can double down on a forced nativité and live as an insane raped slave for the rest of your life, and be miserable and afraid and never feel a moment of peace
"everyone is just doing what they think is best, all conflict is tragedy that could be prevented if both sides had access to the full set of information"
Nope lol sorry
Most common people in the world would torture you to death for nothing and your political class wants you dead
It's a matter of respect to take someone seriously when they say "I want to hurt you". Really you're being rude and arrogant that you think you know better.
I think people are so addicted to novelty and the feeling of "fringe new ideas" that in all the excitement they forget that the "boring normal obviously fake" story they want to avoid by coming up with their own new fresh idea, is "a rouge element in the permanent unelected beurocracy conspired, nudged, and let happen, an attempted murder on a political enemy, by using impressionable programmable youths using advanced manipulation learned over 100 years of spycraft"
"oh wow you believe the official story?"
well yeah. kinda
I was one of those guys who made the official story like 6 years ago. I feel like everyone is finally coming around and frankly I think it's rude they are all pretending they were on board all along, and didnt have to get dragged kicking and screaming to get here
its kind of funny that the design philosophy for all technology went from "user input generates consistent output" to "user input is a suggestion that may or may not be respected" and like retweets and who you follow doesnt really do anything any more
its kind of the technological adaptation of a dysfunctional social behavior that people, I think unknowingly, imprint into the new technology. it's institutionalized "so what you're saying is"
"follow account"
so what you're saying is youre a [x marketable demographic]
"no I just followed that account"
so what you're saying is youre a nazi
if you have an IQ above 110 it doesnt matter what your title is, your real job is babysitter
you think you are smarter than me for reacting with Pavlovian response to every mention of the concept of IQ, and like every mention of it is supposed to be bragging? do you feel smarter than a dog?
I realized recently that I would not let my parents interact with my future children unsupervised, and that realization made me feel angry and dirty and resentful that "they force me to do such a horrible thing"
the way I see it, you are constantly enforcing norms and every moment teaches something. even at a pre-linguistic stage of development, the baby is taking in norms. it is cruel and abusive to allow that child to be exposed to "step-grandparents", full stop
at that point you are sacrificing the child's future for the boomers enjoyment and one generation is enough of that
We are turning a corner on a tendency, and I think we are right in the swing of the turn right now, where once the camera made self-conscious, in the future, the camera will provide a release - "to be allowed to feel", one must put on a persona (for the virtual, "the viewers")
if this happens to you you will be completely enslaved
it is a brutally cruel irony that the term "media literacy" became this meme talking point, because the one question that will decide your personal survival, and the future of humanity in general, is "do you understand what the camera is, and what it does"