Thread by @karunpal

Introverts, staying quiet in groups isn’t shyness, it’s your brain processing deeply.

Here’s why it happens and how to express yourself:

1. Many introverts feel awkward for staying quiet in conversations, but here’s the truth:

Your silence doesn’t mean you have nothing to say. It means your mind is working behind the scenes.

Your brain’s wiring is built for reflection, not impulsiveness.

2. Introverts process information through richer neural pathways

This unique wiring means you:

- Absorb details others miss
- Reflect thoroughly before speaking
- Think deeply before deciding how to contribute

This isn't a weakness. It's a strength that allows deep insights.

3. In groups, this may look like:

- Over-analyzing exactly what to say
- Doubting whether your opinions are worth sharing
- Feeling overwhelmed by fast-paced discussions
- Longing for deeper connections than superficial chatter.
- Worrying people may not "get it".

4. But here’s the challenge:

When you remain silent for too long, people may misunderstand your quietness as disinterest, insecurity, or even arrogance.

I get it, but others rely on surface appearances.

This misunderstanding can make you feel even more isolated.

5. How to empower your voice

You don’t have to fundamentally change who you are to be heard.

You can express yourself by reframing your silence.

You’re not "too quiet", you're mindful with your energy & words.

And you prioritize meaningful input over mere noise.

6. Focus on sharing one impactful point

You don’t need to dominate the conversation.

Instead, look for a moment to add value:
- A thoughtful question
- A unique perspective
- A concise summary that brings clarity to the discussion

Keep it simple, short, and meaningful.

7. It's okay to express your opinions

- It’s not selfish to share your ideas
- It’s not rude to interrupt if the timing is right

You deserve to be heard just as much as anyone else in the room.

Raise your hand. Pause. And then, blow their minds with your uniqueness.

8. Embrace the power of pauses

Stop worrying about messing up. You're a human.

It's okay to pause and gather your thoughts.

Say:

- That’s a great point, let me think about it
- I’d love to add something here, just give me a second

A pause shows you're fearless & confident.

9. You don’t need to be the loudest to make the biggest impact

Truly intelligent people are listeners.

Don't force it. Don't rush it. Express yourself when you’re ready.

And when you do, people will listen, because what you say will carry depth and genuine insight.

10. If you're an introvert who finds it difficult to express yourself authentically, this book can help you:
gum.co/borntostandout

Thank you for reading.

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