An angry mind is a mind that can't:
• Heal itself
• Create a successful career
• Build lasting relationships
Since your doctor will only prescribe pills or tell you to "calm down"…
Here's what really causes anger, why it matters, & how to actually fix it (naturally): 🧵
• Heal itself
• Create a successful career
• Build lasting relationships
Since your doctor will only prescribe pills or tell you to "calm down"…
Here's what really causes anger, why it matters, & how to actually fix it (naturally): 🧵
Most people treat anger like a character flaw.
"Just manage it better." "Count to 10." "Take deep breaths."
But anger isn't a personality defect.
It's your nervous system screaming that something deeper needs attention...
"Just manage it better." "Count to 10." "Take deep breaths."
But anger isn't a personality defect.
It's your nervous system screaming that something deeper needs attention...
I learned this the hard way.
By society's standards, I had everything: distinguished degrees, high-profile career, external success.
But I was furious inside. Constantly proving myself, chasing validation, never feeling enough...frustrated.
Then life forced me to stop...
By society's standards, I had everything: distinguished degrees, high-profile career, external success.
But I was furious inside. Constantly proving myself, chasing validation, never feeling enough...frustrated.
Then life forced me to stop...
February 2014. Swiss Alps.
One second I was carving fresh powder on black diamonds. The next, I was in a hospital bed with 3 broken vertebrae.
Everything stopped. My career. My relentless momentum. My ability to get out of bed.
That's when the real questions started...
One second I was carving fresh powder on black diamonds. The next, I was in a hospital bed with 3 broken vertebrae.
Everything stopped. My career. My relentless momentum. My ability to get out of bed.
That's when the real questions started...
Who was I without the achievements? Why was I so angry at other people's success?
Why had I spent my life running from myself?
9 months of forced stillness revealed the truth:
My anger wasn't random. It had 5 specific sources, and each one had a cure.
Why had I spent my life running from myself?
9 months of forced stillness revealed the truth:
My anger wasn't random. It had 5 specific sources, and each one had a cure.
Source #1: Disempowerment
This is anger from feeling powerless over your life.
You don't trust yourself. You feel like others control your destiny.
Pleasing others results in having no sense of personal authority or authenticity.
But here's what most miss about healing it...
This is anger from feeling powerless over your life.
You don't trust yourself. You feel like others control your destiny.
Pleasing others results in having no sense of personal authority or authenticity.
But here's what most miss about healing it...
The solution isn't "taking control."
It's learning to use your energy to reclaim your will and trust yourself again.
When you stop giving your power away to external validation, the anger transforms into unshakeable confidence.
It's learning to use your energy to reclaim your will and trust yourself again.
When you stop giving your power away to external validation, the anger transforms into unshakeable confidence.
Source #2: Deprivation
Fear-based anger. "I won't get what I deserve."
This drives greed, control, and self-centered behavior. You are obsessed with outcomes and attach you self worth to it.
The flip side? Lack of will & poor self-esteem when you don't fight for what you want.
Fear-based anger. "I won't get what I deserve."
This drives greed, control, and self-centered behavior. You are obsessed with outcomes and attach you self worth to it.
The flip side? Lack of will & poor self-esteem when you don't fight for what you want.
Healing deprivation requires getting honest about your unidentified hunger.
What do you really want? What unconscious desires are driving your anger?
When you bring these soul desires to the surface, you stop being angry at the world for "withholding" from you.
What do you really want? What unconscious desires are driving your anger?
When you bring these soul desires to the surface, you stop being angry at the world for "withholding" from you.
Source #3: Overburdened with Responsibility
You feel obligated to fix everyone else's problems.
You say yes when you mean no.
You absorb other people's emotions.
You feel imposed upon but can't say no.
This creates defensive anger that builds because your energy is too fluid.
You feel obligated to fix everyone else's problems.
You say yes when you mean no.
You absorb other people's emotions.
You feel imposed upon but can't say no.
This creates defensive anger that builds because your energy is too fluid.
The cure isn't becoming selfish.
It's consolidating your sense of identity and strengthening your energetic boundaries.
When you stay centered in yourself, you can help others without losing yourself in the process.
The anger disappears because you're no longer being pulled off your center.
It's consolidating your sense of identity and strengthening your energetic boundaries.
When you stay centered in yourself, you can help others without losing yourself in the process.
The anger disappears because you're no longer being pulled off your center.
Source #4: The Need to Be Perfect
Shame-based anger. "I'm not good enough."
You rage when you're wrong or different. Your identity feels threatened by any imperfection.
This perfectionism isn't about high standards, it's about deep inadequacy masked as achievement.
Shame-based anger. "I'm not good enough."
You rage when you're wrong or different. Your identity feels threatened by any imperfection.
This perfectionism isn't about high standards, it's about deep inadequacy masked as achievement.
Healing requires setting realistic standards and practicing ongoing self-validation.
After every major decision, affirm to yourself: "I did my best with the information I had."
Self-approval becomes an internal process, not something you chase externally.
After every major decision, affirm to yourself: "I did my best with the information I had."
Self-approval becomes an internal process, not something you chase externally.
Source #5: Resistance to "School of life"
This is anger at life itself.
"Why is everything so hard?" "This shouldn't be happening to me."
You want everything perfect or feel entitled to an easy path.
But what if your struggles aren't random? What if they're your curriculum?
This is anger at life itself.
"Why is everything so hard?" "This shouldn't be happening to me."
You want everything perfect or feel entitled to an easy path.
But what if your struggles aren't random? What if they're your curriculum?
School of life represents the lessons you learn in this human life, that your soul, or consciousness, gets to experience and learn from.
When you shift from "Why me?" to "What is this teaching me?", anger transforms into wisdom.
The struggle becomes the path to evolution.
When you shift from "Why me?" to "What is this teaching me?", anger transforms into wisdom.
The struggle becomes the path to evolution.
When you are able to step back from yourself:
your attachments, your desired outcomes, and your ego,
and witness the world around you...
how it reflects the physical, mental, and spiritual ecosystem you've created within...
you can see your how you're connect to everything.
your attachments, your desired outcomes, and your ego,
and witness the world around you...
how it reflects the physical, mental, and spiritual ecosystem you've created within...
you can see your how you're connect to everything.
After my accident, I dove deep into neuroscience, breathwork, ancient philosophy.
Science and every philosophy had a common thread: The mind is programmable. We create our reality through thoughts, beliefs, and patterns we accept.
My anger was a symptom of my past beliefs.
Science and every philosophy had a common thread: The mind is programmable. We create our reality through thoughts, beliefs, and patterns we accept.
My anger was a symptom of my past beliefs.
But here's what I discovered: it's not easy to flip the switch.
Your nervous system needs help to break these unconscious patterns.
I applied what I learned from Ayurveda to address the root cause, not the symptoms.
Known adaptogens can help your brain rewire itself naturally.
Your nervous system needs help to break these unconscious patterns.
I applied what I learned from Ayurveda to address the root cause, not the symptoms.
Known adaptogens can help your brain rewire itself naturally.
If you're ready to transform your relationship with anger and live in flow...
I created something that combines 10+ years of research with Ayurvedic wisdom.
It supports your nervous system while you do the inner work.
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I created something that combines 10+ years of research with Ayurvedic wisdom.
It supports your nervous system while you do the inner work.
Check it out if you're curious:
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