The Long COVID Denial Zone: When the Pandemic Isn’t “Over” For Everyone
I wrote a version of this article and posted it, and pulled it down to correct the reference links. Then our large family, who so far mostly avoided SARS-COV-2 infection, had two infections, and I had to focus on taking care of them. Here is the updated version. Thank you to all those who sent messages of support.
Onward!
America has entered what I call the COVID denial zone, that strange psychological space where millions pretend everything’s back to normal while a growing shadow population struggles with long-term illness.
The Psychology of Mass Denial
Psychology tells us something powerful about human perception: personal experience trumps everything else. This cognitive tendency is called the availability heuristic (mental shortcut), we judge probability and risk based on examples that come easily to mind.
Back in 2020, the evidence of crisis was unavoidable, hospitals at capacity, death counts climbing daily, nursing homes decimated, grocery stores ransacked. Society was collectively freaking out because we all witnessed the same catastrophe simultaneously. If you watched the news on what was going on in in Italy, you felt this fear.
5.5 years Later Now
Five and a half years later? We’ve entered a dangerous phase where perception and reality have divorced. Studies show that approximately 85% of Americans have had COVID at least once by 2023, with many experiencing multiple infections. For those who recovered without complications, their lived experience shapes their worldview: “I survived COVID five times, so what’s the big deal?”
This perception is reinforced everywhere they look, grocery stores filled with shoppers, concerts packed with fans, and restaurants buzzing with conversation. The visible world appears “normal,” creating a powerful feedback loop that validates their experience.
The Invisible Suffering - Long COVID
But what about those who aren’t okay? Research from the Brookings Institution estimates that between 2-4 million Americans remain unable to work due to Long COVID symptoms. That’s equivalent to the entire population of Chicago vanishing from the workforce. Then there are those who can work, but are still deeply affected.
These suffering millions fall into several categories:
The Disappeared
These people aren’t visible in public spaces because they’re too sick to participate. A 2023 study in Nature Medicine found that 1 in 20 people with Long COVID experience symptoms so severe they become housebound or bedbound. They don’t shop at your grocery store. They don’t attend your concerts. Their absence reinforces the illusion that everyone recovered.
The Present But Invisible
Most chronically ill people don’t advertise their condition. The Journal of Health Psychology documented this phenomenon: chronic illness often becomes an “invisible identity” because sufferers fear stigma, disbelief, or simply don’t want pity. When was the last time you announced your health problems to strangers?
The Unrecognized
Many don’t connect their new health problems to COVID infection. Many patients with neurological symptoms post-COVID often attributed them to stress, aging, or “just feeling off” – especially when symptoms appeared weeks after acute infection.
The Growing Crisis We Don’t Want to See
Long COVID patients feel gaslit by a society racing to “move on.” They watch in horror as mask mandates disappeared, testing decreased, and public health messaging shifted to individual responsibility. Meanwhile, their community grows larger every day.
The data is alarming: according to CDC estimates, approximately 7-15% of COVID infections result in Long COVID lasting three months to years. With hundreds of millions of cumulative infections, we’re talking about a massive population, between 14-28 million Americans affected.
And treatment options? Limited at best. While specialized clinics have opened nationwide, wait times often exceed 6-12 months and many closing their doors. A systematic review in The Lancet found that most current approaches focus on symptom management rather than addressing underlying causes.
The Coming Reckoning
This is how society processes collective trauma, through denial until reality becomes undeniable. History shows us this pattern repeatedly. Think about climate change denial that persisted for decades until hurricanes started demolishing coastal cities annually.
The tipping point will come when:
1. Insurance companies notice the profit impact of millions with chronic conditions 2. Disability systems buckle under unprecedented claims (Social Security already reports a 50% increase in disability applications mentioning post-viral symptoms) 3. Economic productivity statistics can’t hide the missing workforce anymore 4. Politicians and their families join the ranks of the chronically ill 5. Doctors practices filling up. (Let’s not forget, they can also get Long COVID. I know two)
It’s like watching a bucket slowly fill with water. Right now, many people stand dry-footed, pointing at the bucket saying, “Look, it’s not overflowing yet!” But those paying attention can see the water level rising steadily. Eventually, everyone’s shoes will get wet.
Seeds of Change
Don’t surrender hope. The recent HHS meeting on Long COVID surprised many with its seriousness and candor. For the first time, officials acknowledged viral persistence as a legitimate mechanism of disease, something patients and advocates have argued for years.
It’s worth noting that reports suggest RFK Jr’s son developed Long COVID, potentially bringing personal urgency to the administration’s approach. Throughout history, health crises often gain political momentum when they touch the powerful.
Researchers haven’t abandoned the fight either. The NIH’s RECOVER initiative has now enrolled over 10,000 participants in what represents the largest coordinated research effort on post-viral illness in history. Breakthrough treatments may still be years away, but the scientific groundwork is being laid.
The Reality Check
History teaches us that denial is always temporary. Reality eventually breaks through because, well, it’s reality. The growing economic and human costs of Long COVID can’t remain invisible forever.
For now, we exist in this strange liminal space where millions suffer while others party like it’s 2019. But as the bucket continues to fill, drop by inexorable drop, more people will find the water rising around their ankles.
And when that happens, perhaps we’ll finally have the honest conversation about what living with endemic SARS-CoV-2 actually means for humanity.
New data shows long Covid is keeping as many as 4 million people out of work.
This data is from 3 years ago, this will be much higher now -’brookings.edu/articles/new-d…
Employment and labor force participation
People reporting long Covid show lower employment rates and higher economic inactivity in household and population surveys. pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC11…
Increased absenteeism for employers and schools
Workers with long Covid miss more workdays on average than matched peers and report higher short term and intermittent absence. journals.plos.org/plosone/articl…
Impacts on military readiness
Military health authorities report persistent post infection illness among service members, with lost duty days, training interruptions, and effects on readiness tracked by military medicine. Prolonged cases create operational challenges for force health management and training pipelines. health.mil/Reference-Cent…
Insurance costs and claims burden
Workers compensation and insurer reports show increased complexity and ongoing medical costs from long term post infection claims. Insurers and regulators are monitoring evolving claim volumes and severity because sustained increases in long term claims can push premiums and reserves. wcirb.com/sites/default/…
Disability claims and benefits systems
Advocates and researchers document rising demand for disability evaluations tied to long Covid, plus guidance and case series on documenting functional impairment. Social Security and other systems face adjudication challenges and uneven access to benefits for people with fluctuating, non visible symptoms. pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC10…
How to Love Someone With Long Covid (Even When It’s Hard)
Let’s talk about something brutal.
When you get sick and stay sick, people disappear. That’s not a flaw in your personality or your worth. That’s human behavior. Animal behavior, actually.
Let me rewind.
Decades ago, I dated someone I loved deeply. She had this deep belief, that if the passion fizzled, it was over. That was the whole rulebook for her: no fireworks, no future. And maybe when you’re young, that feels like truth. But I had already seen what love actually looks like, the kind where your parents argue. and then hold hands shortly after. The kind where frustration turns into listening, and listening, turns back into love, like some weird emotional tide.
So when she asked me, “Is it over?” I was confused. Like… why would she even think that?
Later, I learned something that changed me.
You don’t have to feel love to show it.
Almost always, the showing comes first.
When you do the loving thing as a caregiver, lover, friend, and cook their favorite meal, run the errand, sit through their bad day, something inside shifts. Love grows out of the act in you. It’s a feedback loop. Not a feeling. A practice. Both of my deepest relationships got stronger the moment I stopped chasing emotional proof and just acted out of little acts of me doing loving things. And you know what? The feeling always followed. I loved them more. I was loved back more.
This is where we bring in Long Covid.
Millions of people have been living through something that most of the world pretends isn’t real. Something that doesn’t show up on the surface, but eats through their body, their energy, their memory, their sense of self. And if they are lucky enough to have a partner, or a parent, or a friend who’s still around, chances are, you are also struggling.
Because illness drives people away.
It always has.
It’s not new. Throughout history, when people got sick, they got abandoned. Leprosy. Tuberculosis. Polio. People didn’t just suffer the disease, they suffered being cast out.
We’re no different. Just more polite about it.
And if you’re the one still here, caring for someone who’s chronically ill, let me say this: Your instincts will betray you. There’s a weird effect that illness has on caregivers. It makes you want to retreat. You’ll find yourself pulling away. Not because you’re cruel. But because your brain is screaming for safety. Normalcy. Simplicity. And right now, the sick person you love is the opposite of that.
This is where I remind you: You are an animal.
I listen to this podcast called Tooth and Claw. It’s full of bear attacks and wild animal stories. One of the hosts says something that stuck with me:
“If you see a behavior in animals across a wide population, it’s probably an animal behavior.”
Well guess what? Caregivers disappearing when someone gets sick, and that’s an animal behavior. Human animal behavior. Our biology is hardwired for survival, and that means distancing from perceived danger. Sickness triggers something ancient in us. Something deep. Something hard to override.
But here’s the thing.
You can override it.
It starts with remembering who they are, not who they are now, in bed, groaning, or angry, or falling apart, but who they were. Who you fell in love with. Who made you laugh until you cried. That version of them still exists, even if it’s buried under symptoms and fatigue and grief.
Remember this too: In sickness and in health wasn’t poetic fluff. That vow wasn’t written for fairy tale weddings. It was a survival pact. It came from generations of people who watched their children die of infections. Who lost partners to fevers. Who suffered and stayed. That phrase was carved out of real history, when illness wasn’t rare (Just look up how many children died pre-1930s) it was expected. And now here we are again.
Modern medicine gave us the illusion that we were safe. That sickness was temporary. That suffering was manageable. But Long Covid shattered that illusion. And most people born after 1960 have no emotional blueprint for this.
We’re flying blind.
If you’re the one who’s sick, here’s something you need to hear: You’re not being ignored because you’re annoying or boring or selfish. You’re being ignored because your suffering triggers something ancient and uncomfortable in people. They don’t know how to sit with it. Most weren’t taught how. Their avoidance isn’t always a conscious choice. It’s an emotional reflex.
In the book How Emotions Are Made, Lisa Feldman Barrett explains that emotions come first, and logic comes after. We don’t decide how to feel — we feel, and then decide based on that. So when your loved one shrinks from your pain, or snaps at you, or stops checking in, ask yourself: Are they choosing that? Or is it an emotional response they don’t even recognize?
Think about the last time you stubbed your toe on something, and shouted at an inanimate object. “Damn it!” That wasn’t a planned reaction. That was your animal brain in action.
That’s what we’re dealing with. Not cold indifference. Biology.
So what can you do?
If you’re a caregiver, do one loving thing today. Not because you feel warm and fuzzy. But because it’s the right thing. Make tea. Rub their back. Sit in the room quietly. Do it even if they don’t thank you. Do it even if they’re upset. Because the feedback loop still works. It works on you. You’ll feel more love just from acting in love.
If you’re a patient, and your family member is cold or distant, try this: If you have the energy, think a loving thought toward them. Even if they’re not giving it back. Just thinking it can soften something inside you. Maybe it leaks out. Maybe it doesn’t. But you’ll feel it. And maybe — just maybe — that loop starts to close.
None of us chose this.
But we can choose how we respond.
We’re not just animals.
We’re animals with memory.
With words.
With stories.
I know I tend to make long posts. I’m going to include an audio version for those who can’t read long posts. For future articles, I’m definitely open to suggestions fiture posts. Should they be shorter or should they be broken up with titles?
Is their evidence for viral persistence in COVID-19?
From the meticulous work of the PolyBio Research Foundation, in collaboration with the esteemed halls of UC San Francisco and Harvard Medical School, to the robust findings published in Nature and The Lancet, we are presented with compelling evidence of the virus’s tenacity.
These studies not only confirm the presence of viral proteins and RNA months after the acute phase of infection but also suggest a troubling link to the chronic, debilitating symptoms known as long COVID.
Let’s delve into some of the evidence for the evidence pointing to viral persistence of SARS-CoV-2,
1. PolyBio Research Foundation Study
A study published by the PolyBio Research Foundation, supported by UC San Francisco and Harvard Medical School, found that viral proteins from SARS-CoV-2 could persist in the body for up to 14 months post-infection. This study used an ultra-sensitive blood test to detect viral proteins in 25% of the 171 participants, indicating that the virus can linger in tissues and organs long after recovery from the acute phase of the infection. The likelihood of detecting these proteins was higher among those who were hospitalized or reported severe symptoms during their initial infection[1].
2. Nature Study on Persistent SARS-CoV-2 RNA Shedding
A cohort study published in *Nature* identified persistent SARS-CoV-2 RNA shedding in individuals for at least 30 days, with some cases extending to 60 days. The study found that individuals with persistent infections had more than 50% higher odds of reporting long COVID symptoms compared to those with non-persistent infections. This suggests that persistent infections could contribute to the pathophysiology of long COVID, although the exact mechanisms remain to be fully understood[3].
3. NCBI Study on Long COVID and Viral Persistence
Research published on NCBI proposed a hypothesis-driven model for long COVID, suggesting that the persistence of SARS-CoV-2 or its components (such as the spike protein) could lead to chronic inflammation and a dysregulated immune response. This model is supported by evidence of viral RNA and antigens being detected in various tissues, including the cerebrospinal fluid and feces, months after the initial infection. The study highlights the potential for viral persistence to trigger long-term health issues[2].
4. Lancet Study on Viral Persistence in Tissues
A study published in *The Lancet* examined the persistence of SARS-CoV-2 in various tissues, including blood, gastrointestinal, and surgical samples. The research found that viral RNA and proteins could be detected in these tissues long after the acute phase of infection, suggesting that the virus can persist in different parts of the body and potentially contribute to ongoing symptoms and health complications[5].
5. NCBI Study on Viral Persistence and Reactivation
Another study on NCBI explored the persistence of viral RNA and antigens in patients with long COVID. It found that viral components could be detected in blood, stool, and urine, and that the presence of these components was associated with persistent symptoms. The study also noted that viral persistence might involve either active replication or the presence of non-replicating viral RNA, which could still trigger immune responses and inflammation[4].
The evidence from these studies collectively supports the notion that SARS-CoV-2 can persist in the body for extended periods, potentially leading to long-term health issues such as long COVID. This persistence can involve both active viral replication and the presence of viral components that continue to stimulate the immune system, leading to chronic inflammation and other symptoms.
Further research should be done to put to rest this question of viral persistence and to develop effective treatments for long-term COVID.
A study reveals that SARS-CoV-2 can infect human CD4+ T helper cells, impacting the immune response in severe COVID-19 cases. The virus uses the CD4 molecule to enter these cells, leading to functional impairment and cell death. This infection results in increased IL-10 production in T cells, associated with viral persistence and severe disease. The findings suggest that SARS-CoV-2 infection of CD4+ T cells contributes to immune dysfunction in COVID-19.