Thread by @elfair

The position of women in society has changed in the last 50 years such that if you live together🏠, or if finances🏦 are merged, that is family, and you are basically married. If you hide marriage or cohabitation or try to justify lying by saying it is not a spouse, you are trash

https://twitter.com/SkyTheViking/status/1975555062320800182

If you do not clarify the nature or existence of a cohabitation or marriage and pretend not to have a family to entrap, intended or not, targets to exploit without consequences for energy, attention, or money and you think you are so special you are entitled to it, you are trash.

If you have children and pretend for any length of time to not have a family for any excuse, you are a level of trash that can't even be described.

The planning to access targets under false pretenses can include extensive future visioning used as manipulation. It is just vile.

The internet and ct can be anonymous or pseudonymous or guarded, but it is still made of people, and it should be common sense not to treat it as some removed-from-morality virtual reality where you can do no wrong. Extensive dematerialization doesn't mean ethics are dissolved.

If you are 18, new to adult society, confusion is understandable, but besides youth and inexperience, nothing can ever justify extensive, targeted duplicitousness that involves pretending that your family does not exist. You clearly violate social norms that go without saying.

Even if the excuse is that business is more streamlined for single unmarried uncohabitating people, the argument does not hold. Business is trust. Hiding family means you are hiding the primary thing you are earning money to spend on, not to mention your strongest support system.

Splitting groups of people into different castes while recruiting people to be part of your support system while keeping them meticulously in the dark about your core support system is deeply wrong, malicious, impractical, and very clearly unsustainable.

People are not Legos.

Friendships, ones that start in person, are not Buckminster Fuller geometric modular digiprojects of abstract expressionism. Humans are not art supplies or technical components in your burgeoning empire. No one is here, least of all me, to be colonized with lies. I am not so dumb

Buckminster Fuller’s ideas can liberate human potential through design, to make tools that empower everyone (“Spaceship Earth” stewardship).

But his systems thinking can be inverted: the same modular, synergetic logic that can build community can also build control systems. 🥲

Schools taught me formal control systems design, but Fuller I happened to read a lot about in a library one summer voluntarily because he is so deeply interesting.

You can't architect digital empires by abusing modular interchangability. Simple lies can have huge consequences.

A liar can abuse Fullerian concepts of synergy/unity to

- extract labor/emotional support from others
-mask private hierarchies under the guise of collective or distributed projects
- construct digital empires that profit from performative collaboration while centralizing power

That corruption of the original ethics of Buberian frameworks weaponizes the symbolism of unity to enact disunity.

It’s geometric exploitation to wrap manipulation in the language of systems design.

It customizes for exploitation a systems blueprint that was neutral/positive.

Abstract Expressionist rhetoric, “this is about artistic chemistry”, merges w/ modular systems control.

Distributed nodes of loyalty, compartmentalized tasks, emotional dependency loops.

Friends are modules in the empire, only valued for their outputs, not their inner lives.

The consummate manipulator hides his true loyalties or “family” because opacity is a control mechanism. It sustains mythic authority, like the hidden architect behind the dome.

Manipulation meticulously made to look like natural synergy becomes big asymmetry farmed for leverage.

Abject dehumanization through systemic aesthetics can be made to look clean, reasonable, or even forward-thinking.

Critical theorists might id this transactionalism as instrumental reason disguised as art, or using the beauty of structure to amputate natural empathy from life.

Digital empire-building thrives on this because algorithmic systems can replicate that modular exploitation at scale.

It usually involves unpaid emotional labor, unofficialsocial media team loyalty, or unpaid creative ideation, all while the lying architect centralizes credit.

Abstract Expressionism celebrates the self in motion. This perversion of it lets performance of authenticity to feed empires.

Fuller’s geometry mirrored nature’s integrity, but this customization simulates integrity to harvest devotion. 🥲

Geometry with no empathy. Synergy with

no sincerity.

Systems that mimic care but optimize extraction.

How to fix..

True systems do not obscure or conceal, but reveal, structure.

Friends are not modules. Strike down relational ethics that treat them as such.

Expose asymmetries. Visibilize who benefits, who pays.

Original Fullerian synergy compels one to design systems that return agency to participants.

To make the world work sustainably for 100% of humanity in the shortest possible time is the goal.

Anything less considerate, any privately dehumanizing empire, betrays that ethos.

Tldr; No friends, no artists, especially not futurists, will design genuine connection into asymmetrical power plays for exploitation without consequences or accountability.

Fuller’s modular, synergetic worldview assumes transparency, mutual reinforcement, and integrity of parts

Connection /= a private script of extraction masking deceit. Performative friendship as interface design and infrastructure turns the connection as a social engineering operation, not a collaborative geometry.
The victim’s openness is treated as a resource node, not as a person.

Spiritually, creatively violating inductions into simulations where all genuine impulse is repurposed as fuel in contexts of art or technology betrays on both emotional and ontological levels.

These perversions attacks the idea that creation could, should, be maximally honest.

Signs of perversion:

Enthusiasm is deferred into faked futures, never concretized.

Secrecy, compartmentalization, or a refusal to name commitments are huge red flags.

No hard names for what is being built.
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God forbid truth is a design principle. God forbid ppl be real.

Highly curated nodes turn into traps of exploitation in the hands of emotionally stunted people who simply cannot resist extraction of what does not belong to them.

Dishonest thieves to the very end.

What are anyone's dependencies, libraries, and core support systems 🫣 ?

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