In any serious society, entertainers are low status, like courtesans or circus performers. They exist for your amusement and nothing more. If you would enjoy a party like this, think about why.
1. If I have to text something to a wife, I send it to her husband and he shares it with her. Or, I send to a group chat they’re both a part of.
2. I never enter a neighbor’s house if the husband is not at home.
3. If trying to coordinate a play date, I either talk to the husband, share invite with him, or make sure the wives connect and sort it out.
4. I do not add wives as Facebook friends unless I’m already friends with the husband and they invite me first. (Would be rude otherwise). Otherwise leave invite pending.
5. If contractors need to come to the house when I am not home, I plan to meet them there.
This is not even conservative. This is being smart.
No one sets out to screw up their life. People get into sticky situations step by step.
“No, no… why do we need rules? Can’t we all just be chill and trust each other? We’re all grownups.”
Wouldn’t it be better to learn from the accumulated wisdom and experiences of people who screwed up? Wouldn’t it be better to assume people make mistakes rather than to find out that no one is perfect?