Thread by @SabbyDires

I had looked forward to this for a month. Little man was gonna go easter egg hunt at my husband's parent's house. My sister in law has consistently scheduled events during his nap time regardless of asking if they could move it just one hour later. One hour.

Today was the same. I did everything to make it work so we could just hit the ground running when he got up after his nap. I got a pretty dress, and a really cute vintage outfit for little guy that I was excited to share with husband's mom.

We're walking out the door, it took only 15 minutes, get a text saying don't bother coming we are already done. Adults and teenagers mind you. I bawled my eyes out. They said "this is a family event, it doesn't revolve around you, if you really wanted to come...

You would have delayed his nap." I'm speechless, do they not understand? Why can't we be afforded some grace with a toddler? I'm hurting so badly. I have tried everything to be included in their family because I do not have anyone left besides my husband and son.

I sat in the bathroom and just cried silently. I did everything, I was not going to force him to stay awake and mess up his schedule. I worked really hard on it...Then I was given "what effort could you have put in besides driving here? 😂"

They laugh.. at me. At my effort to be considered family.. it's..funny. Childless people by the way.. except my husband's mother, who..decided it was best to "stay out of it"

My heart aches, my stomach turns.
I have kept putting myself out there

Even though I am always met with this same disregard. I was able to find some old recipes of my mom's, it's about all I have left of her. I made it for them for Christmas, and no one wanted any.. I guess because I made it.
But I kept trying.

I can't try anymore. They have never liked me, they make fun of me for being from the south, they laugh at me for speaking up about how I am treated. But it was me..alone in the hospital with my newborn son. While my husband kept checking on the dog at home

Because one of them said they would watch him and flaked out last minute. It was I who rocked him and said, we love you, even if no one else seems to. No one even bothered to meet him until he was a year old. But then they say oh, we want you to come to

The family event. I cannot..ignore their actions. "The event is at 1pm, if you want to be there then come" is what we were told. Then we found out they were all still there even at 4pm, proving it wasnt that critical to not give us another 30 minutes or so to get there.

We were told oh it's because of everyone's schedule. But they were there for six hours eventually. How is that not intentional? It was the last straw, I will not be their punching bag any longer. Then they said that it's not fair to my son that he didn't get to go, our fault.

Would it have been fair to him to mess up his schedule that he has had for a long time just to appease the wants of adults? Adults that did not even bother to come see him when he he was born? Or even a year after? And they live 20 mins away?

Am I fucking crazy?

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