OMG! I just left a session with an ADHD teen.
The way they described object permanence made everything click.
1. They said:
The way they described object permanence made everything click.
1. They said:
"If something isn't right in front of me, my brain starts acting like it doesn't exist."
That sounded simple.
But it explained years of confusion.
That sounded simple.
But it explained years of confusion.
2. They weren't talking about forgetting important people.
They were talking about how ADHD affects awareness.
Things that move out of sight often move out of attention too.
Things like:
• emails
• appointments
• paperwork
• messages
• responsibilities
They were talking about how ADHD affects awareness.
Things that move out of sight often move out of attention too.
Things like:
• emails
• appointments
• paperwork
• messages
• responsibilities
3. That's why ADHD can create problems that look confusing from the outside.
The person genuinely cares.
The task genuinely matters.
The intention is genuine.
Somehow the responsibility fades into the background until something brings it back into view.
The person genuinely cares.
The task genuinely matters.
The intention is genuine.
Somehow the responsibility fades into the background until something brings it back into view.
4. The ADHD teen explained that this affects relationships too.
Because attention naturally follows what's currently visible, urgent, or directly in front of them.
That can create misunderstandings with people who interpret silence as lack of interest
Because attention naturally follows what's currently visible, urgent, or directly in front of them.
That can create misunderstandings with people who interpret silence as lack of interest
5. What made this so painful was the guilt attached to it.
The moment the forgotten thing comes back into awareness, it often arrives with:
• embarrassment
• frustration
• self-criticism
• regret
The moment the forgotten thing comes back into awareness, it often arrives with:
• embarrassment
• frustration
• self-criticism
• regret
6. The sentence that stayed with me was this:
"The problem isn't that I forget what matters. The problem is that what matters keeps disappearing from my attention."
The room got very quiet after that
"The problem isn't that I forget what matters. The problem is that what matters keeps disappearing from my attention."
The room got very quiet after that
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