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Ryan Stephens @ryanstephens
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I don't have it all figured out, but I do my damnedest to lead my family. Part of that is protecting and providing, but part of that is being a 'man of action' and leading by example. To guide us, my wife and I created the Stephens' 10 Commandments.

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We review our commandments quarterly. They're fluid. When the kid(s) get old enough to contribute, they're allowed to have an opinion. Ultimate decisions is ours, but we want them to weigh in. Here are our commandments...
1./ Be kind.

• Treat others the way they want to be treated
• Respect and protect (h/t @TheFamilyAlpha)
• Positively impact others
2./ Family comes first.

Family *doesn't* have to be blood. For us, it starts there, but our close friends... they're family. We prioritize these people over others. That's where we can have the most impact.
3./ Think healthy. #FitFam

The stronger you are the harder you are to kill. Since the birth of our 1st, we've both broken every personal best between 5K and half marathon (in our mid-30's). Now, we're focused on lifting & strength. We demand excellence from each other.
4./ Less things. More time. More experiences.

We focus on what's essential. That's not THINGS. When you de-clutter your life, it opens room to think, to live. To have experiences that are far more valuable than depreciating assets.
5./ Abundance Mentality.

• Focus on what we can have not what we can't.
• Focus on what we do have not what we don't.
• Focus on what we accomplished note what we didn't.
6./ Re-frame the bad. Find the silver lining.

CBT. Stoicism. "This is Water." --> Find whatever works for you.…
7./ Opt outside. Nature soothes the soul.

Our favorite thing to do in the evening is walk around the neighborhood with our kiddo. We search for pine cones, we chase squirrels, we play ball, et al.

We go inside when it gets dark. #optoutside
8./ Be antifragile. Embrace chaos. Learn. Grow. Strengthen.

To be clear, we're not anti-fragile, but every day we focus on the process and attempt to get even with probability. As individuals, we're fragile, but as a family unit, we're moving in the right direction.
9./ Always do your best at what you choose to do.

We practice essentialism. Which is to say we try not to waste our time on bullshit. If we choose to do something that aligns with our ultimate goal(s), we do it to the best of our ability. "If it's worth doing... it's worth..."
10./ Create Polaroid moments. (Again hat tip to @TheFamilyAlpha)

It used to be, "Everyday is a new opportunity to practice our commandments," but I loved the Polaroid idea so much that we adopted it for now. It's a good reminder to live a big, bold life.
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