we should stop trying to fit into cis society.
cis society is overwhelmingly white, heterosexual, and anodyne. it's bog standard boring. and it is oppressive as fuck.
so why aspire to it?
coexist with? sure. we should. but more importantly, THEY should coexist with US. they need to make the effort. you do not ask the injured worker to bear a heavy load...
but we're the margin here. we should expect...no, DEMAND...that they come to us. that they accept us. we shouldn't have to conform, to pass, in order to deserve respect.
and yes, i know that comes from a position of privilege.
in order to...
listen. i don't want to /survive/.
i want to LIVE.
once upon a time, gay people were accused of being perverts and rapists and child abusers.
now it's us.
if we make an effort to look femme or masc, we're appropriating, if we don't we're blokes in dresses or tomboys.
if we have surgery we're mutilating ourselves, if we don't we're blokes in dresses.
and it's intentional.
they don't want us to succeed. they don't want to accept us as us. they want to deny, state that you can't identify as a gender, accuse us of that.
i don't identify as a woman.
i AM one.
1) we can continue to try and...sell out, i guess. try to be inoffensive. try to fit in. try to keep our heads down. try to not be too loud. try to strealth. and i get it, it's safe, and i don't blame the choice.
and i'm done eeking.
i don't have to be rich...but i have to live.
we can, and should, and MUST fight those. it's essential.
but it's not enough.
not in my not at all humble opinion.
because society at large will ensure we don't...despite your celebs like caitlyn jenner and india willoughby...both of whom receive far more press and attention than the worthy janet mock or laverne cox or so many others...
but we need more. from every part of our culture. we need trans women and men from all over sharing their stories, their cultures, their experiences.
because their voices and lives matter.
my experiences differ wildly. as do those of every member of my family.
and not boring.
and not anodyne.
and again, i know i speak from a safer, privileged position. i'm white. and i have a roof over my head and a car to drive.
and despite this safety, i get death threats. i've been doxxed. i'm not immune even if my place is more secure in many ways.
i want every person in this community to have even the little bit i have. and i want and need to do my part to help it happen.
society says we shouldn't have our medical treatment covered by their insurance dollars.
so when we crowd fund, we're lazy for not doing it ourselves.
you see now?
everything is never enough.
nothing for us without us.
from each of us as we can, to each of us as we need.
we build a community that lifts up the least of us, gives them chances, makes them better, and by extension all of us.
we fight like hell for our rights.
and we make them come to us.
and so...in the words of one of the most brilliant men ever to walk this earth...