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Caffeinated Living @WokeLiving
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How many times have #WhiteWomanTears - whether they be literal tears or just dry proverbial ones - showed up to rest, rule & abide in Black wmn's lives?

I've decided to share one of countless experiences with u. With email receipts. [thread] These tears taste like oppression...
My supervising professor is a White Wmn. In countless private meetings w her, she would snap at me, even slam her laptop shut in response to me simply asking a question to better understand what she wanted me to do. Apparently, asking a White Woman teacher to teach is tew much.
I endured this treatment from her for over a year, usually responding by not responding at all. Just quietly saying "okay", looking down, and generally trying to appease the beast.

Until one day she went there. IN A LAB MEETING. IN FRONT OF MY PEERS.
Now, one day in another class, her messy self confessed to having an untreated anxiety disorder, and at this point, her abuse has dang near given me one. But knowing #WhiteWomenTears, ever the aggressor/ever the victim,...
...I responded to her like trying to talk a man off the edge of the bldg: I didn't look up from computer, I didn't make eye contact, I didn't raise my voice but a few decibels above a whisper,....
...my voice even and slow, I respond to her with:

"Calm down. I'm not asking you to do anything extraordinary. I'm only asking you to teach me."
My eyes never left the screen of my computer.
She was quiet for a few seconds before saying, "You must feel pretty comfortable with me to talk to me like that!"

How I felt:
(Now, here's the thing: IF I did feel "pretty comfortable" with her, it would be because her unprofessional inappropriate self was forever telling me her personal business...
In addition to knowing about her untreated anxiety disorder,
I know she's having trouble conceiving,
that she's opted out of the university's health insurance,
that she's divorced, but that her current husband has a lot of similarities to her last, she likes margaritas, dancing..
I'm the same age as this woman, but here she is talking down to me like a child, throwing her White Womaness power tactics all over my life with a dash of public embarrassment. As much as I'd have loved to do this:
What I said? Nothing.
I grew up with a momma that liked to fight, so I know when someone is trying to pick a fight w me. I also know how #WhiteWomanTears work out here in these streets. So I said absolutely nothing. Didn't look at her. Didn't speak to her. Kept my breathing even.
(Dealing with #WhiteWomanTears requires skills equivalent to working in crisis management...or the LAPD bomb squad in Lethal Weapon.)
The next day, I woke up to this email from the supervising professor that snapped and raised her voice at me in a meeting in front of my peers when I asked for a further explanation of how to do her graphing system:
#WhiteWomanTears
I responded to these dry #WhiteWomanTears with this email:
To which she responded with a bold basic (allow me to translate for those that don't speak White Power): "I'll treat you any way I want to treat you, and if you don't like it, you can sabatoge your graduate degree+your thesis you've put years into and leave":
Just look at all that POWER. Calmly asking a White woman to NOT abuse you is apparently far more offensive and disrespectful than actually abusing a Black woman. Ahhhh, taste those #WhiteWomanTears
#WhiteWomanTears have snatched peace, jobs, reputations, time, minds and lives.

@Luvvie and @blackgirlinmain has us all (Black wmen) having flashbacks and PTSD-esque moments remembering the ways in which #WhiteWomanTears have harmed, tormented, and permeated our everyday lives.
Here's a link to @Luvvie's article if you want to take a read:
awesomelyluvvie.com/2018/04/weapon…
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