But in my twenties, that was not how my thinking worked.
But from the inside, it felt like it was the only logical way to preserve my sense of myself as someone who was not a victim.
First: Telling women we just have to be strong and walk away from garbage men frequently backfires because it creates this mindset where if we someone fail to do that from the beginning, admitting that feels worse than putting up with abuse.
But it's not. What it is is giving victims the ability to forgive ourselves and become survivors.