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Alexandra Erin @alexandraerin
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I'm trying to figure out how to categorize the interaction I just had, and I'm not sure how to describe it.

And the person who did it is going to see this, and I want to be clear I'm not trying to make that person feel bad, and I am still serious about not wanting any reply.


Someone just dumped what I can only call the long version of an elevator pitch for their RPG idea in my DMs. Not "Can I get your opinion on a game idea?" and wait for permission. Just. A message longer than a page, describing their game idea.
And the idea... I mean, if I say it's horrific, again, I'm not trying to make the person feel bad. But I was horrified by it. It concerned a game I don't play reskinned into a setting I find abhorrent, and the whole thing is the complete opposite of why I roleplay.
But I wasn't asked if I wanted to hear about it, I was not given a chance to opt out. I didn't get to say, "Oh, I don't play that game, sorry, not my thing." which would have spared me hearing the premise.
And it's not always going to be as bad a mismatch as that was, but... don't dump unsolicited pitches on strangers, whether you're looking for help or feedback or publication or production or whatever. That's not how you get anything done.
And now I feel a little skeeved out, because, the other day when I was looking for more queer accounts to follow... were some of the people thinking that connecting with me was going to in some fashion be their big break? If so, you're going to be disappointed. I'm nobody.
I mean, realistically, statistically, I'm a a weird nobody. I'm weird at being nobody in that I'm everybody-adjacent, but not in a way that's terribly useful. I can't get you the hook-up. I can't introduce you to people.
And if you're the person who dropped a pitch on me, you're lucky I'm nobody, because you didn't burn any useful bridges by doing this. If you did that to somebody who's in a position to do something for you? Then you'd be out an opportunity.
The person who did this - I deleted the conversation. I don't remember your username. There's no lingering impression here and there won't be as long as you don't bring it back up again. You do get a second chance to make a first impression.
And the person who did this probably didn't think of it as a pitch, but that's what it was. It was at least a page long. Your first communication with someone, unless it's via e-mail and there's some context for it, should generally not have paragraphs.
And if there's questions/assumptions in what you're saying, like "I don't know if you're familiar with this game"... I mean, stop. Ask the question. Wait for the answer. In this case the first question was at the top, when they were talking about if I'd give them feedback.
I honestly can't say how I would have answered that question. But even if I said no, I would have thought badly about the asker, or as skeeved out, or revolted by the idea.
I mean, boundaries.


My actual Twitter friends, the people I talk to on here on a weekly or better basement, don't dump story or game synopses on me. They ask if they can get my opinion on something.
It's going to be a long time before I follow a bunch of strangers on a whim again.
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