One night, I woke up at 4:12am, heard a sound, panicked, and ran outside. I ran so fast I almost slipped going down the stairs. My blood pressure went nuts. Why? Because I'd left the hose running in the pool. And that made me think about TENSION IN WRITING. 1/
So often, early writers will neglect tension unless it's OMG THE MOST TENSION EVER THE END OF THE WORLD. When you're focused on worldbuilding and plot, it can be easy to forget the frustration you feel when a coworker eats your sammy or someone you dislike calls. 2/
Confession: For my first few books, my agent advised I create an Excel spreadsheet, break the book down by chapter, and rate each chapter on how much tension was in it. My first book was, um, mostly 4s. That was eye opening. And a good tool for inserting more tension. 3/
So here is a story about the dumbest $40 I ever spent and how I turned it around. Gather round! 1/
So yesterday, my mom offered to keep my kids overnight. I've been working 12 hour days, writing and editing, so I flailed and recognized my need for adventure and decided to force Disney World upon my husband. It's only an hour away, and we had 16 days to use up 2 FL tix. Yay! 2/
But we had to hurry, so we packed our bags and got on the road at 4:30 to hit dinner at 8:30 at Epcot. Easy drive, cheap hotel, hit Soarin' and Spaceship Earth and skidded in to dinner at San Angel Inn. Great date! So happy! But then. Disaster struck!! 3/
Today's topic: Getting past THE BOTTLENECK. THE BOTTLENECK is what I call it when a task grows so big, so pendulous, so painful that it settles on you like a little depression-- but you're so deep in it that you can't see it. 1/
How to know if you have a BOTTLENECK:
* you felt fine, but a task arrived, and then you felt bad/anxious
* you dread the task
* you feel like the task is chasing you
* you have trouble doing anything else
* you're neglecting all other tasks while procrastinating on this one 2/
THE BOTTLENECK, for me, is often something that doesn't actually move me forward. A task from the past, something that matters more to other people than it does to me. Sorting shit after my dad's death. Doing an edit on an old book. Paying a debt. Unpaid work. DON'T WANNA. 3/
So I was thinking today about this concept I call "The $50 solution to a $2000 problem." Do you guys get this? It's basically where you get caught in a thought loop instead of doing the easy solution. For example: 1/
Every day, I work inside the house, and it makes me feel kinda stir crazy. So I start thinking I need a beach retreat, or a trip somewhere new. I get researching on Expedia. But what do I really want? Fresh air. So I bought a little patio bistro table and chair at Target. 2/
Our lizard brains are sensitive but not always clever. Brain shouts LET ME OUT, you think it means Hawaii. But it just wants a walk. Or you think you need a gym membership and personal trainer when you just need to walk around the block and do some squats. Go easy/cheap 1st. 3/
One of the most important skills to learn if you want to write IP = how to show voice right out of the gate. That's why you generally need many books under your belt-- so you can dive into the pool instead of slowly immersing in chapter 1. It has to be there from page 1
My first few books = the first chapter was me slowly immersing, telling myself the story and making it 'real'. Why? Because it didn't feel real to me and I felt like I had to make the reader know everything I knew. With time, I learned to get where I was going faster.
But you can't ramp up to being Han Solo. You must immediately be in that voice, w those mannerisms, good enough to please superfans. And that's a skill that can generally only be learned through years of doing it wrong until you figure out how to do it right in your own books.
We have a question: What was it like writing your first book? Was it overwhelming? Answer: Nah, it just felt out. LIKE BABIES DO. Let's talk about it.
I wouldn't be a writer at all if my brain hadn't broken. See, when I was 31, my second child stopped sleeping, and so did I. 3.5 hours a night, if I was lucky. And I straight-up started hallucinating. I heard mice talking in the walls. But... there were no mice.
So I went and asked my husband about these mice, and since he's a psychologist, he handled it in the best possible way, which was not locking me up a la The Yellow Wallpaper. He put me on a sleep schedule and suggested I commit to a hobby just for me, a creative outlet: Writing.
I noticed several threads today on how writers glomp, and how many of us ache to join a glomp, especially with writers we admire. And how that often goes awry. And how it's awkward on both sides. And since I'm stuck in this dang airport for 2 dang hours, I HAVE THOUGHTS.
I wrote my first book in 2009. I didn't know anyone in publishing. So when my first book came out in 2012, I'd never been to a con. This poor little introvert had to quickly level up as a crafstman and public figure. I felt so awkward, like a hopeful imposter who didn't belong.
So here's how I LEARNED TO GLOMP. First of all, I went to the local indie bookstore with my galleys to make friends. They were so nice, and they said another new local author had stopped by recently, so I looked him up on Twitter. And luckily, that was @JamesTuckwriter!
A thread this morning on FLIPPING THE SWITCH. This is the name I've given to a certain set of behaviors I exhibit whenever I make a major change in my life--or even a series of little changes. Happens most often as I come out of a depression, and it's invaluable to me.
First, to paint a picture, here's what my depression looks like: I slowly fall into it without noticing. I don't like bathing. I sleep too much. I never feel awake or energized. I eat mindlessly. I withdraw from people. I wear only pajamas, hair in a bun. I lean into work.
I don't generally realize I'm depressed until I'm about to come out of it and can see the light at the end of the tunnel. I read self-help books, clean up my diet, and cogitate on how to feel better. So when I feel a roadblock, I stop and consider why. And try to hack it.
Oh, my friends. 99% of the time, I can smile politely when strangers want to chat about Star Wars. I do not engage. I do not let on my deep roots or my current involvement. But tonight, when a cashier tried to geeksplain me, I LET THE NEXU CAT CLAWS OUT.
I was buying a BB-8 lanyard-- for the Disney cruise I'll be on as a guest speaker for Star Wars Day at Sea next week-- and the cashier said, "This is not the droid you're looking for." And I said, "I assure you that it is." And he said, "Well, do you know what that's from?"
So I said, "A New Hope."
And he said, "No. Star Wars."
I was just listening to a podcast about figuring out what you're meant to do, and I had a minor epiphany. We always hear 'consider what you loved doing when you were a child'. I loved to draw, so I always thought I was meant to be an artist. But I was missing something obvious.
It wasn't so much that I enjoyed the act of drawing. What I was doing was worldbuilding. Creating characters. I didn't draw clothespins and shoes and replicate the masters; I drew cat princesses in amazing gowns and witches riding dragons. The drawing wasn't the important bit.
But all that time, I assumed I was supposed to be an artist. I was in AP art in high school and hated it. I got a degree in art and hated it. I taught art classes, and I hated it. The only part I really loved was painting murals. Looking back, I know why. The $$$ and the flow.
Let's talk about something fun in publishing: FOLLOWING THE DANG RULES. 1/
"But Delilah!" you say. "I am a rock star. Rules are not made for me!" And I just kinda laugh, because this outlook will get you nowhere. Every successful writer got where they are by learning the rules and following them until they had enough clout to break them. 2/
When it comes to querying, submitting, pitching, or writing homework, your reaction to the test is part of the test. If they ask for 1000 words, they mean 1000. Maybe 1012. Not 1679. Don't make their life harder; it doesn't make you look fun to work with. 3/
Today's topic: Tips for upping your confidence, especially when moving through the world as female/female presenting. How does that relate to writing? Because confidence trickles into everything you do. It's a tool in your toolkit. I had to hack mine. 1/
First of all, some affirmations: You are valuable. You are great. You don't have to conform. The writing world is full of nerds and weirdos, and we have your back. The number one rule? Don't be a dick. That doesn't make you confident. Be the best version of you. So, how? 2/
Confidence is not about being arrogant, cocky, or acting superior. It is about believing that you have value and a voice and a right to exist in the space. It is about maximizing your skills and reach without hurting anyone else. Lifting up, not stomping down. 3/
1. Yesterday, I tweeted about writing a series, and several replies were along the lines of OMG IF AN EDITOR WANTS ME TO CHANGE MY BOOK, I'M OUT. So I'm going to talk about that today, because it's important for those who wish to be traditionally published. First: bad news...
2. Let's say you write a book. You get an agent. Your agent thinks the book is flawless and requests no changes. She sells it to an editor. The editor thinks the book is flawless and requests no changes. THIS HAS NEVER HAPPENED. IT WILL NEVER HAPPEN. STOP IMAGINING IT.
3. So if you want to be traditionally published, you've got to grow accustomed to having other cooks in your kitchen. That doesn't mean they're going to turn your pumpkin pie into a kale salad. That means they're going to make your stew more delicious. It's a team effort.