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Welcome to all the new Villagers (that's what I like to call folks who support the work in our digital village). I'm Angelica Lindsey-Ali, a public health professional, certified sex health educator for over 16 years, and a practicing Muslim. Nice to meet you.
I teach women how to reclaim their rights to sexual pleasure, love their bodies, and embrace femininity. Everything that I do is guided by my worldview as a Black Muslim woman. But you don't have to be Black or Muslim to follow and learn.
When it comes to discussions about sexuality, I will always defer to the Islamic perspective with an African lens. I do not mince words when it comes to standing up for and defending the beautiful nuances of my faith. I see my work as expanding the narrative surrounding Islam.
As salaam alaikum and welcome to the new followers. I'm Angelica, The Village Auntie. I am a Black woman, wife, mother, practicing Muslim and certified sexual health educator. I tweet about reconnecting to #TheWaysofOurForemothers through conversations around femininity and sex.
Everything that I do is from an Islamic perspective. I have over 18 years experience in the fields of education and public health. I have delivered health education sessions to hundreds of people in my job as a public health professional.
I have provided private sessions with friends concerned about reproductive health and sex-related matters since 2003. People would seek me out through underground channels in the community. My work as a Village Auntie was a closely guarded secret to preserve women's privacy.
We are doing Muslim youth a disservice by not having conversations around sex and relationships. We are sending young people out into the world armed only with the restrictions of religion w/o informing them of the beautiful realities of halal partnerships.
Too many of us lament the lack of Muslim youth seeking out marriage. But how can they want to enter into a system about which they only know the stipulations but not the benefits? Marriage sounds boring. No one is hipping youth to the beauty and power of halal love.
What I gathered from this weekend is that there is a strong hunger and desire to "get it right". There is also a reticence to enter into sexual relationships due to the massive fear and shame placed in Muslim youth by clergy, parents, and social messaging.
Just because a man's penis is erect doesn't mean that he is automatically 'ready' to have sex. Our village is definitely (and always will be!) woman-centered, but let's talk about men for a minute, shall we? #TVAMovement #ForeplayEquality
A vast majority of men wake up with nocturnal penile tumescence ('morning wood') and it is not for reasons you might think. Much of it has no connection to external sexual stimuli. Don't believe me? Read this: cle.clinic/2Sw53si
So don't take the fact that he woke up with the flag on his soul pole waving to mean that he's ready for action. Just like you need foreplay, men do too. Too often we think an erection is all that's needed.
I was raped when I was 23. I got married in 2004 at the age of 29. It took me until 2017, at the age of 42, to tell my husband what had happened to me. I still haven’t told my parents or siblings. Only close friends...and now you.
I was ashamed, scared, and confused about what happened to me. I was unsure about what to say or how to say it. I didn’t want others to pity me. I didn’t want to be labeled a victim.
It is not easy to expose your truth, especially when you fear repercussions and judgement.
