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@SandsUK work hard to support bereaved parents - mums, dads, and non binary parents. Lesbian mums,straight couples,single parents, wider families. Anyone who has had a baby that died who needs advice and care. Please donate to them if you can afford it sands.org.uk 🦋
When you’re writing about #miscarriage #EctopicPregnancy and #stillbirth language matters. But it is not as straightforward as it might seem. If you’re talking about “mother” as the person who’s physically been pregnant and is straight it’s clear who you mean by “bereaved mum”
But if you’re wanting to make lesbian and bi mums feel included in support and care, just as we should do with dads, it can be confusing if you use the term “mother” to mean the person who was pregnant. There are two mums, one was pregnant and had the physical experience of loss
Without knowing or intending to #ChrissyTeigen raised an army today. Sharing her photo will have done so much for #babyloss awareness ❤️
Also all the racists, trolls and bots are being foul about Teigen and her loss, so do feel free to report any abusers you see. If you use the death of someone’s baby to score points you’re cowardly scum.
lots of racists are trying to be clever asking questions about #babyloss they think will discredit (eg why was a photo taken of Teigen). If you’ve the energy you can shut their nonsense off AND raise awareness with accurate answers. Then report, mute/block them.
I wrote a story about my miscarriages and several newspapers said they couldn’t feature it as I didn’t have a heartbreaking photo of me reacting to my losses to make it “powerful”. A woman shares just such an image today and is shamed for it. Both of these situations make me sad
Things I was asked for
“a photo of you crying?”
(No. I hid my losses, few people saw me cry)
“any bump photos or scans?”
(No because I didn’t get scan photos for my losses and I didn’t take many bump photos for fear of losses)
“Baby shower pics?”
(too scared to consider a shower)
“a photo of you crying?”
(No. I hid my losses, few people saw me cry)
“any bump photos or scans?”
(No because I didn’t get scan photos for my losses and I didn’t take many bump photos for fear of losses)
“Baby shower pics?”
(too scared to consider a shower)
It is really important to normalise grief. To take photos of bumps and babies.Especially after a death to remember your baby. All those things are appropriate,but there are also reasons why they don’t happen.Whatever you do it may not be through choice but it will be with sadness
Sadly, just over a week ago we lost our twin boys
Teddy came and went from this world quickly and quietly. He passed peacefully. Our younger twin, Rafe, was not born until Tuesday 23, but died later that day in NeoNatal ICU.
Baby loss, and coping with grief, is very hard 1/
Teddy came and went from this world quickly and quietly. He passed peacefully. Our younger twin, Rafe, was not born until Tuesday 23, but died later that day in NeoNatal ICU.
Baby loss, and coping with grief, is very hard 1/
Nothing we could do. Just a horrible tragedy. We emerged from hospital a week ago shell shocked. We have taken some time out to recover. I am back at work part time, but bear with me. We will come through this, but will always miss our boys. Cards are fine, but pls no flowers 2/
The loss of our younger twin Rafe was particularly acute. He lived and died within a long day. But we treasure our time with him in Neonatal ICU. We were able to tell him of all our hopes and dreams for him, and our family; but he could not make it and died in Flora’s arms 3/
I'm seeing a lot of flack directed at awareness weeks. I can see they are problematic and can be viewed as a cheap way of acknowledging an issue without addressing the root causes / issues underpinning them.
Particularly around mental health there is a justifiable anger about focus on certain more 'acceptable' forms over others and the gaping void between intent and outcome of 'talk to someone'.
Awareness weeks are a chance for people with lived experience to come forward, talk about it and encourage others to either talk of their own if ready or seek support.
There's been big steps in #KeepTalkingMH in the workplace that hasn't quite made the shift for #babyloss due to a pervasive stigma and taboo. #FindingTheWords
Even the phrase #babyloss is enough to cause issues let alone talking about the lives and deaths of our babies. #FindingTheWords
