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I'm very tired of secret-disabled people.
I can't even write the essay about it bc I already wrote that essay: lacancircle.com.au/psychoanalysis…
I can't even write the essay about it bc I already wrote that essay: lacancircle.com.au/psychoanalysis…
There are so very many secret-disabled people in my life. I need the secrecy around disability to stop OR I need to figure out my own boundaries around secret-disabled people.
Hmmm. #Boundaries #BoundaryWork
Hmmm. #Boundaries #BoundaryWork
Yeah, I can do something about my own boundaries.
Preliminary boundary: If you are secret-disabled? I will move my bodymind away from you. I do not consent to be in close relation to secret-disabled ppl.
Preliminary boundary: If you are secret-disabled? I will move my bodymind away from you. I do not consent to be in close relation to secret-disabled ppl.
If you would emphatically tell a person to leave an abusive relationship with a partner but then encourage that same person to just stay and accept abusive behavior within an organization... 1/
you have to ask yourself when the capital of an organization became more important to you than the health and wellbeing of human beings.
To fully embrace and apply the pillars of anti-racism and anti-oppression, we have to confront our internalization of capitalism. 2/
To fully embrace and apply the pillars of anti-racism and anti-oppression, we have to confront our internalization of capitalism. 2/
We have to confront the socialization that teaches us that protecting the holdings of the institution is far more important than the work we do to protect each other. Our wellbeing matters. Our wellbeing matters more than the assets and reputation of the organization. 3/
Let’s talk about accountability. Let’s talk about the fact that there is no harm that can be neatly wrapped in a box with a bow or told so that it makes us feel good and comfortable. 1/
And if it’s doing those things, there’s truth missing. If it’s doing these things, we have an opportunity to reflect on why our takeaway from a person’s experience with harm is that we feel good or that we feel comfortable. 2/
We all experience harm and we all cause harm. None of us are immune. The process to seeking out repair, to acknowledging what has been done to us and what we have done to others is not linear, it doesn’t always look the same, and the folks who have been hurt don’t all... 3/
Do you know the name of Anna-Murray Douglass?
On the fourth of July, we often hear about calls to re-read and re-consider Frederick Douglass' work “What to the Slave is the Fourth of July?”
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On the fourth of July, we often hear about calls to re-read and re-consider Frederick Douglass' work “What to the Slave is the Fourth of July?”
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And on the fourth of July, and every other day of the year, we are encouraged not to ask exactly who helped Frederick Douglass get free.
This is Anna-Murray Douglass, abolitionist, member of the Underground Railroad, and Black woman who was born outside of slavery. 2/
This is Anna-Murray Douglass, abolitionist, member of the Underground Railroad, and Black woman who was born outside of slavery. 2/
Anna's role in American history is often erased or completely eclipsed by the fact that she was the first wife of Frederick Douglass.
Anna Murray, even as a severly oppressed Black woman, helped free Frederick Douglass from slavery. 3/
Anna Murray, even as a severly oppressed Black woman, helped free Frederick Douglass from slavery. 3/
I have a sibling who is a malignant narcissist. In my immediate family, we are the only two people who are not cis. For many years, my sibling bullied me as a child and then attempted to manipulate my choices and my self perception as I came into adulthood. 1/
It was painful and at the time I had no concept of a what a narcissist was. I just remember that whenever I sought to confront them for some terrible thing they had said or done, they would go into some long preamble about some calamitous event they had experienced. 2/
Over time, this wore me down. I stopped talking to them for months at a time but we were still connected on social media. One day they started communicating with me more over Twitter but the communication was always focused on something I wasn’t doing enough of. 3/
We have so many relationship experts who urge us not to take crumbs from romantic partners, friends, and family members.
But when will they also teach us about the ways we are conditioned to gratefully accept crumbs from governments, institutions, employers? [1]
But when will they also teach us about the ways we are conditioned to gratefully accept crumbs from governments, institutions, employers? [1]
What good is knowing that I am worthy of boundaries and safety in my relationships with other people if I believe myself to be unworthy of those same boundaries in the face of my government, my workplace, my community? [2]
If we’re taught to believe that the limit to our boundaries is institutional power - we won’t fight injustices that put us outside our comfort zone. [3]
Whenever news breaks about a celebrity’s nudes being leaked without their consent, it’s a good time to ask ourselves what and where our boundaries are with rape culture and misogyny. [1]
People seem to believe that it’s okay to share, retweet, and search leaked videos and photos of male celebrities - because they’re “just men.” And that’s wrong. [2]
Other people’s bodies don’t exist to be consumed by us and if we find it acceptable to share and re-share the naked photos of anyone without their consent - that means we are perpetuating rape culture and that means that we are in the wrong. [3]
We all need rest. ⠀
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It’s okay, you can rest now.⠀
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You can carve out time that is just about you living your life.
You can thrive. ⠀
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You can take time to breathe. ⠀
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You can put your phone on mute. ⠀
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It’s okay, you can rest now.⠀
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You can carve out time that is just about you living your life.
You can thrive. ⠀
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You can take time to breathe. ⠀
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You can put your phone on mute. ⠀
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You can tell us “no, I don’t have the capacity today, this week, this month.”⠀
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You can leave and spend time to yourself, with loved ones, with people who remind me of who you are and who you would be without the need for your activism and your advocacy.⠀
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You can leave and spend time to yourself, with loved ones, with people who remind me of who you are and who you would be without the need for your activism and your advocacy.⠀
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In 2019, we’re giving people opportunities to grow. They decide if they will take them or not. They decide if they will cancel themselves. We don’t decide that for them. [1]
There’s an enormous amount of emotional labor that goes into cancelling a person. In 2019, I realize that I have to set a boundary around when and how I’m extending that labor. Sometimes people don’t just don’t deserve that energy. [2]
Those who wish to live a life of harming and hurting everyone around them are making a decision to cancel themselves. I don’t have to do that work for them. I don’t have to manage or take the lead in cancelling them. I literally can just walk away. [3]
Historically, econ has thought employers as more rational than women and minorities. It translated in how economists define and measure discrimination.
Here is a short thread on my PhD thesis bc it’s Sunday and it’s raining 1/28
Here is a short thread on my PhD thesis bc it’s Sunday and it’s raining 1/28
My PhD was on the history of a specific (now standard) approach to discrimination (*the economics of*) I studied the origin and reception of theories and models, as well as empirical analyses and their uses outside academia, from the 1950s until the 2000s, in the USA. 2/28
While you can conceptually separate approaches that seek to explain discriminations, and those that wish to measure and produce evidence, it’s intertwined in the production and reception of the analyses - here Becker and Arrow's models 3/28
