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If you're stuck in a recurring, predictable toxic pattern with someone, your temptation is to focus on them - all the things they are doing to make it worse. But #SystemsTheory teaches us to take responsibility for what we can own. By pausing, we can break toxic patterns.
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Rather than spend energy on 'them' you can pause and run a few powerful steps.
1. Map out the actual problem.
Many people stay stuck because they haven't clarified the ACTUAL problem. Sometimes a 'problem' is actually 5 interrelated problems.
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1. Map out the actual problem.
Many people stay stuck because they haven't clarified the ACTUAL problem. Sometimes a 'problem' is actually 5 interrelated problems.
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Our KidMin was struggling with volunteers cancelling on Sat night. That feels like the problem, but when you tease it out, it is several interrelated problems.
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I have been studying the nature of criticism lately as criticism is a frequent source of anxiety for a leader....
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I think what I offer that is hopefully helpful and freeing for people, is I take a large sweeping concept and try to break it down into identifiable and manageable parts. So I have defined several aspects of 'anxiety' for example, so we can name the source and be free....
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Criticism is like that -a broad sweeping word that covers a lot of territory.
3 particularly insidious forms of criticism are: cumulative criticism, second hand criticism, 'same meeting, different experience' criticism.
I will attempt to clarify each in this thread.
3 particularly insidious forms of criticism are: cumulative criticism, second hand criticism, 'same meeting, different experience' criticism.
I will attempt to clarify each in this thread.
1/ A thread on how Family Systems Theory (FST) was founded and why it is so useful for leaders....
2/ Murray Bowen founded it, so it is also known as Bowen Theory. He got it started in 1954 and up until him, all psychology was focused on what is inside someone but Bowen started to pay attention to what is happening between people. This was a significant shift in POV
3/ Bowen was working in a psych ward, watching adult paranoid schizophrenics meeting their mothers for Sunday afternoon family visitation. Mom is a bit apprehensive as she walks toward her adult sons, so she reaches out for a tentative hug...
