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1/ A thread to detail a way forward for JOFA, for their teshuva.
Disclosure: I am friends with some of the victims as well as some on the board. I've been tangentially connected to JOFA over decades. One of my first published pieces is in their journal
academia.edu/51009289/Priso…
Disclosure: I am friends with some of the victims as well as some on the board. I've been tangentially connected to JOFA over decades. One of my first published pieces is in their journal
academia.edu/51009289/Priso…
2/ Ironically, that piece was in reaction to the Lanner scandal at the OU and the founders of JOFA, who were in the congregation the Shabbat I delivered the original sermon in 2000, appreciated this line: "If we don’t listen to women, when are we going to listen to girls?"
3/ There are 2 principal wrongs in how these cases are treated: (1) the victim needs carry their case forward which is re-traumatizing and should be seen as perpetuating the alleged abuse; (2) Outside investigation is necessary but should be "zabla" (see:)
bethdin.org/zabla-panels-a…
bethdin.org/zabla-panels-a…
1/ #ReshetKeshet
Before #RoshHashanah there's a common practice to utter a blanket request for forgiveness. E.g. "To everyone I know or encountered please forgive me. OK bye!"
You're correct in thinking that this depersonalized superficial "apology" is hollow & thus ineffective.
Before #RoshHashanah there's a common practice to utter a blanket request for forgiveness. E.g. "To everyone I know or encountered please forgive me. OK bye!"
You're correct in thinking that this depersonalized superficial "apology" is hollow & thus ineffective.
2/ How can I forgive someone if they don't know what they did to me? Doesn't admit real guilt, express regret, detail how they will work towards restitution, or describe how they will fix their mentality/behavior to avoid hurting me in the future.
3/ However, #RoshHashanah is a dangerous time of year. Tradition understands the stakes are the highest possible. It's an annual review before the King of Kings, arbiter of justice, and we treat it like the final exam worth 100% of our grade.
