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Let us.. look at how #traditional people, of times when #Shankaracharya lived, treated him though him being one of the realised beings of his times & respected, when it comes to #scripts&how he responded
One incident is of the cremation of his #beloved #mother.
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One incident is of the cremation of his #beloved #mother.
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I've been thinking a lot about #widowhood since The Wife died. There used to be rules women followed at the death of a spouse. There still are in many cultures/religions. The rules were to maintain respect for the widow, to advertise her loss and support her in her grief.
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There was a period of wearing black and a veil. Then just black. Then grey. Then mauve or purple. The stages of grief and recovery. But of course not everyone recovered. And in an era of often forced marriage, there wasn't always true grief.
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But now, widows are expected to move on. Barely two weeks after The Wife's sudden death for which I was utterly unprepared, people were asking me out on dates. (And still are.) Men and women. It feels shocking and disrespectful. But a couple friends said it's common.
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In the movies, when a spouse dies, everyone brings food to the bereaved. Pure fiction. The primary reason I have to get some form of transport in my house is so I can get food. The Wife always made sure we were fed. And she made great vegetarian meals for me.
In the movies, when a spouse dies, everyone brings food to the bereaved. Pure fiction. The primary reason I have to get some form of transport in my house is so I can get food. The Wife always made sure we were fed. And she made great vegetarian meals for me.
I have eaten few decent meals since The Wife passed. It's aggravating my CHF and every day around 3pm I am so hungry. Were it not for The Wife's bestie who makes sure the cats & I get fed every day,we wouldn't have survived. But she is not a cook. The Wife was a terrific cook.
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Don't say "whatever you need" unless you mean that. It's a thing people say to say something, but it's not helpful if you don't follow through. Some friends of The Wife, a couple we used to spend time with, sent me soup, bread and cookies from this comfort food place. Perfect.
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