Thread by @suzannahweiss

Instead of telling women their breasts are sexy no matter their size, how about we stop sexualizing breasts?

There's room for reminding people they're capable & deserving of confidence & sex lives no matter what they look like.

But "all boobs are sexy" messaging is old & overdone & risks furthering objectification.

We get to define our body parts & decide how sexual we consider them.

Rather than focus on which features are sexy, let's remind people that sexiness comes from the inside — and, more importantly, that they don’t have to be sexy.

When people responded to this tweet by criticizing my appearance, I initially comforted myself by remembering those who have found me attractive.

Then I considered the spirit of the tweet and realized: I’d rather stop giving thought to what others say about my looks, positive or negative, and focus on shining the beautiful light of my soul.

It’s good for people to know their boobs are perfectly fine no matter their size.

But we have more to gain by focusing on the size of the heart underneath them.

Body image insecurities are almost always about something other than your body. If you focus on making peace with certain features, your mind will probably find some other feature to hate until you deal with your feelings of inner ugliness.

Loving your body starts with loving yourself on the inside.

Until you learn to love yourself from the inside out, that overriding sense that you’re not OK, that you don’t belong here, will keep coming back to haunt you.

It may haunt you in the form of different physical insecurities. But addressing the physical alone won’t solve it. It will always feel like there’s someone prettier than you, like there’s something wrong with how you look, until you see beyond appearances altogether.