I just created a list of body affirmations for myself, and I’m going to tweet out a new one each day in hopes that they’re helpful to others. Body image affirmation of the day: I was born with the ability to charm, entice, and enchant, and I’m going to go out and revel in that.

Instead of telling women their breasts are sexy no matter their size, how about we stop sexualizing breasts? There's room for reminding people they're capable & deserving of confidence & sex lives no matter what they look like.

But "all boobs are sexy" messaging is old & overdone & risks furthering objectification.

We get to define our body parts & decide how sexual we consider them.

Has anyone had things not work out with their quarantine boo? Please DM me if you're willing to be interviewed for an article! Still looking to talk to people who have had things not work out with their quarantine boo. DM me if that's you and you can help with an article. Thanks!

How many people would attend an online cacao ceremony/discussion group if I held one? I've got this meetup group, which has details on how they work, and I could expand them beyond LA... meetup.com/LA-spiritual-i… If I were to host a virtual cacao ceremony, would you prefer it be done over Facebook Live or Zoom?

In case you’re wondering what I’ve been doing with my quarantined time, I’ve got 152 pages of a memoir written.

It contains such lines as, “Once I ingested the San Pedro, this threesome seemed like the most important thing in the world.” Another preview of my memoir:

“I think iboga wants me to go on Tinder,” I announced to a few other participants the next morning, a tad embarrassed that this plant spirit would have given me such seemingly unsanctimonious instructions.

I don't believe in chasing people. I also don't believe in rules like "don't text someone twice in a row." Rules are for people disconnected from their hearts. Follow your heart and nothing else matters. If it says to double-text someone, do it. Fuck "don't chase men." Sometimes men are clueless and/or scared and if you know the relationship's right, you gotta fight for it, even if that means chasing them to the end of the goddamn Earth.

I'm looking to talk to trans and non-binary people about obstacles they experienced in obtaining healthcare — particularly obstacles caused by society's binary and essentialist view of gender. Please DM me if you can help. Thanks! Also looking to interview:
-A woman who had trouble getting a chronic illness diagnosed & treated because of her gender
-A woman who experienced mental or physical health issues due to sexual trauma or objectification
-Someone who experienced an orgasmic birth
DM me, thanks!!

Get off your high horse about drugs. Pretty much everyone's always tripping on some substance, whether that's coffee, alcohol, sugar, or Prozac The dichotomy drawn between pharmaceuticals and so-called recreational drugs is antiquated. Anything can be medicinal or toxic depending on how it’s used.

So as a little side project, I've been giving psychic readings, and apparently I've gotten good enough to start charging. If you let me know you heard about this from Twitter, I'll give you a reading half off: indigointuitivereadings.com Another project I'm launching: Cacao Conversations, an event series combining deep intellectual discussion & the spiritual traditions of #cacao ceremonies. People in LA, please come to the first one Dec 18 at my place in Santa Monica & invite your friends! facebook.com/events/8167525…

The more I embrace my inner "nag," the easier dating becomes. I used to let things slide when I was mad bc I was scared of being a nag. Now, if you don't give me the attention I require, I'll tell you. Then you have the info you need to step up to the plate, or you can decide I'm nagging you & free me up to find someone who meets my needs.

Thank you for sharing this @biscottidana. I had Lyme-induced IC as well and was told for months "nobody knows what causes IC, there's no cure, best you can do is manage symptoms with medication," all while the Lyme took over my nervous system. Doctors need to do better.

https://twitter.com/biscottidana/status/1109154053915885577

[2] Interstitial cystitis has become a wastebasket diagnosis for any sort of bladder pain/discomfort/frequency that cannot be explained by standard UTI tests, even though these tests are known to yield tons of false negatives.

For #EatingDisordersAwarenessWeek, I wrote about an eating disorder you might not have heard of: diabulimia. allure.com/story/diabulim… @MelainieRogers @DrNesochi @WeAreDiabetes #EatingDisorderAwarenessWeek #edrecovery #eatingdisorderawareness #EDAW2019 #edawareness #diabetes Also, a reminder that if someone you love has an eating disorder, any comments about their looks (even well intentioned) have the potential to trigger them. ravishly.com/2015/02/26/5-t… @ravishlydotcom #EatingDisorderAwarenessWeek #edrecovery #eatingdisorderawareness #EDAW2019

When men believe that women aren't very sexual beings, it's often because they're giving off such creepy vibes, women don't feel comfortable being sexual *around them.* Some men try to push women's boundaries then complain that they're not interested in sex. The irony is, women would probably sleep with them if they weren't creeps. The reason we're not oozing sexuality around these men is that we don't feel safe, not that we don't want sex.

When a woman fails to satisfy a man sexually, she wonders what’s wrong with her. When a man fails to satisfy a woman sexually, she wonders what’s wrong with her. If a woman doesn’t get a man off, it’s assumed that she has to be sexier or wilder or improve her technique. If a man doesn’t get a woman off, it’s assumed that she’s difficult to please.

Women with chronic illnesses: how long & how many doctors did it take you to get diagnosed? I counted 11 months & 17 doctors & wrote down what each did to show what we go through just to begin to heal. Side note: the first person to accurately diagnose me was a psychic 😂 Second was my acupuncturist.

Vulvas don't actually orgasm slower than penises. It just seems that way b/c we conflate "sex" with "intercourse." It's time to stop spreading statistics that paint female bodies as inferior & "naturalize the orgasm gap," as @lisawade puts it. theestablishment.co/what-a-fake-fe… @ESTBLSHMNT And I'm getting tired of hearing "orgasm shouldn't be the goal of sex." It doesn't have to be, but if that's your goal, that's fine. Let's not further shame women for wanting orgasms.

What is this "women need X minutes of foreplay to get turned on" nonsense? I get turned on by my own thoughts. Think about it: It's not like women need foreplay before masturbation. See this passage from Shere Hite's The Hite Report.

No @Promescent, the orgasm gap isn't "science." Women orgasm as easily as men w/ clitoral stimulation. The gap comes from our penis-centric idea of sex. By claiming that a product prolonging erections will close it, you're endorsing this idea of sex & contributing to the gap. Refer to this passage from Kinsey's Sexual Behavior in the Human Female. You see these ridic stats like "women take 20 minutes" but those are based on intercourse (conflated with "sex"). They're used to justify the orgasm gap yet they don't reflect women's actual sexual capacity.

Headlines like these are irresponsible. Magazines could save women years of shame and lopsided, unsatisfying sex if they stopped pretending any intercourse position belongs on this list. As @sophiawallace says, "The world isn't flat and women don't orgasm from their vaginas." Also, WTF is going on in that illustration? Is his penis...bent behind him?? It just goes to show, it is LITERALLY painful to try to conform to society's sexual ideals. For all genders!

[Thread] These "oral sex panties" represent everything that's wrong with what @andizeisler calls "marketplace feminism." The concept: They mask your vulva's taste/smell/appearance so you can be "empowered" to "get more oral" and "close the orgasm gap." indiegogo.com/projects/loral… [2] Their body-shaming campaign video features a woman who is about to get oral sex then remembers she worked out that day and has her period... as if that's a problem?? Do those with penises need vanilla-scented latex too so that their balls smell presentable??

I beg to differ, Spell Check. "Heteronormatively" is totally a word. And yet you're okay with "debinarizing"? You perplex me, Spell Check, but I'll roll with it.