Hey- it can be devastating when you out someone’s sexuality without their permission. I don’t care if they are your partner, spouse, or anything else, it still wounds.
If they took you privately aside to share this piece of themselves to you, then keep it private...(1/5)
Many people who are in the closet struggle with anxiety related to feeling out of control. I didn’t get to choose my sexuality, or how people would react to me, or feeling other than, but I did get to choose how to share my story. (2/5)
Especially early in the process of figuring stuff out, it can be so scary just knowing that another person knows, regardless of their response.
When you tell your partner, or anyone, you are demonstrating lack of care for the person who trusted your (3/5)
By all means, ask for permission. But if you tell everything to your spouse/anyone, then you BETTER make that clear to people. I did not tell your partner. I told you.
It was incredibly frustrating when someone mentioned to me as an aside that they had told their fiancé...(4/5)
Anyway, this “secret” is often clutched closely. It is not your job to speed up the process for anyone. Don’t you dare put someone under the emotional distress of saying you’re obligated to share this information elsewhere whether they like it or not. You are doing harm (5/5)
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