Thread by @GbengaWemimo

The Husband, Spiritual Maturity and Marriage

I was having a discussion with a 28-year-old daughter of Zion recently, I do not know her full life story before that conversation and I assumed she had lived the perfect life
(I always assume this of everybody who is a born-again

believer)
I know how I was before I met the Holy Spirit and I know how my walk with his transformed my life. I also know that the same way the Holy Spirit works in me, he works with every one of those who willingly desire to walk with him that same way. This is why the gifts we

walk in may be different but Christian character is always consistent
Christ is the end product
It is not difficult to see eighty to ninety percent similarities in the character of every believer even though one is a gifted minstrel and the other cannot hold a tune to save his

life
The point is, The Holy Spirit produces Christ in all of us
To know a mature believer, or rate the rate at which a believer is maturing, just compare such to Christ in their speech, their relationship with people (Members of the family, friends, strangers and so on), their

emotional intelligence, how do they react to negative situations? Do they melt down under pressure or do they possess that calm assurance that the wind and the waves bows to? What about their ability to forgive or what they say when they are angry? Do they bring up past issues or

treat each misunderstanding on its own merit etc
I told this lady certain things, as a matter of confidence
I said I know someone who wouldn't have remained married till now if not for the love of God that has been shed abroad in his heart and his ability to take whatever came by

the power of the Holy Spirit
I told him the man married his wife a virgin and they have children but the wife had given him hell from day one
The wife didn't want him to be rich because she believed if a man had money the man would cheat on his wife (This was not as a result of

something the man did but as a result of a mindset she brought into the marriage) Every time the husband had a good job, she would do everything to sabotage it
And she did it smiling
Eventually, the husband started a business, as the business thrived she tried her best to kill it

but this man's efforts continued to yield so much money
Eventually the wife started a rumor that one night while she was sleeping, she woke up to find this man doing something to her head and she couldn't tell what it was but it was after then that the man became successful.
This

rumor shook this man to the bone
He knew the stunts his wife had pulled since the beginning of their marriage to keep him poor
His wife once went to his office, logged on to the office wifi because he gave her the password and download all the seasons of Spartacus and another

series deliebrately)
It was against company policy and she knew it
She went to his office on a Sunday morning, parked in the parking lot and did what she did
He was sacked for it
She just shrugged and said sorry
He had 250,000 naira saved once, the wife found the deposit slip and

started crying
"Where did you get so much money?"
She troubled him until he closed the account and handed her the cash to add to the following year's house rent
His wife said in the course of her rantings "You want to have money so that you can carry women? You have money now and

the next thing will be to start sleeping around"
He knew she didn't want him to prosper, not because she was a witch (She was a tongue talking, born again Christian) but because of her insecurity issues.
He discussed the issue with their church pastor. The pastor and his wife

called them for a meeting
His wife cried until the pastor started apologizing
Why was she crying?
She said her husband went to discuss her insecurity issues with outsiders
So the husband found himself in a fix
His wife refused to let go of the insecurity, she said as far as she

was concerned, it was out of love! "If you love me, you will feel the same way about me" That was her song
She did not know that she was suffocating her husband
She did not know that she was making his life miserable
She did not know that when her husband sees his mates and their

achievements, he was embittered by her pranks and how it had limited him in life
It got so bad that her husband associated her with failure and she became an object of derision to him
He knew she didn't want him to succeed so he started keeping secrets from her so that she would

not be able to sabotage his plans
After the husband became successful, it became a huge gulf in their marriage
He was convinced that the only reason he was successful was because his wife was kept far away from his affairs
He was determined not to let her sabotage his success but

the wife didn't see it that way
The wife saw his secrets as a way of keeping her out of his life and dividing their marriage
She cried day and night
"I don't know his movement, i don't know his business partners, I am a stranger in my husband's life"
She was inconsolable
The man

kept saying it felt to him like a fox crying that because it is raining, the shepherd should open the door to the sheep pen for it to enter"
As far as the man was concerned, if he let her into his affairs, her natural instinct would kick in and she would kill his source of wealth

So he kept her out.
Eventually, she went to the pastor and reported her husband
The pastor called the husband
The husband explained himself with examples pastors know about
The pastor called them to a meeting and told the wife that since her husband had become wealthy, did she

lack anything?
She said it has nothing to do with money
She would rather be poor and have her home than have a rich husband who would be cheating on her
She said as far as she was concerned if her husband could keep his bank balance, business partners and other important things

in his life a secret from her, it wouldn't be difficult for him to keep a mistress and even a second family somewhere without her knowledge
All she wanted was to return to the point where they would not have any secret between them
The pastor told the husband to let her in
She

swore she had changed
The husband said ok
The husband gave her the password of his phone, told her about his businesses and all
The next thing she did was install the Telegram web browser of her husband's phone on her laptop so that she can be getting real-time information on his

dealings
Her husband's business partner was from the Philippines
Her husband had a franchise into one of their network marketing products
This lady wrote a mail under a pseudonym and sent it to the CEO of the company in the Philippines claiming her husband and the woman were

mixing business with pleasure
The CEO knew the information was not true because her husband had never met any of them at the Philippines
They started the business through a contact in London
The CEO forwarded the letter to the lady's husband
The husband moved out of the house!

This was the point where the lady came crying to the brother in Jeans and T-shirt for help
She had acted like the fox the husband said she was and validated the husband's concerns about her
Now she wants divine intervention...

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Two Cents gbengawemimo.com/post/two-cents
Her husband's business partner was
from the Philippines
Her husband had a franchise into one
of their network marketing products
This lady wrote a mail under a
pseudonym and sent it to the CEO of
the company in the Philippines claiming