Thread by @claireOT

Some things I know:
1. Men’s sexuality has evolved to prime men for instant reactions to stimulation (including thoughts, feelings, sensations) and has been selected for the ability to reproduce many times with many people.
2. This is not like women’s sexuality
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3. Women’s sexuality has evolved to allow us to choose to invest time and resources in a mate, to reproduce relatively few times. This is different to men’s sexuality.
4. The dance between the drivers of men’s and women’s sexualities, gives us culture
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5. The drivers of male sexuality mean men are more vulnerable to develop paraphillias.
6. Male orgasm is a huge reinforcer of behaviour, and can push men along a pathway to develop paraphillias.
7. Men must learn self-restraint over their sexuality
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8. Men are solely and completely responsible for their own behaviour, including sexual behaviour.
9. The culture has developed religions and practices based around men developing sexual self-control, because this is a permanent feature of male sexuality
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10. The culture is currently enabling a doomed path for men by providing instant gratification of every sexual urge or impulse, at the touch of a button.
11. Men working for the benefit of men are providing “off-ramps” from development of paraphilliac sexuality
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12. The development of Autogynephillia happens along a pathway that is reinforced, many times over, by male orgasm. Many, many decisions must be made by men to continue travel towards this paraphillia.
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13. AGP develops with deep feelings of shame; men recognise they are expected to develop self-restraint over their sexuality.
14. Male orgasm is such a powerful reward that it is difficult for men to utilise the “off-ramps” during the development of paraphillias
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15. Getting to the point of publicly declaring one is in the grip of a powerful paraphilliac sexuality takes years, sometimes decades.
16. Men will sacrifice everything in their lives in order to travel further towards paraphilliac sexuality
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17. Relationships, partnerships, parental or spousal commitments; all will be debased or abandoned, or even abused, to further progress towards paraphilliac sexuality.
18. All Trans Widows know this
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19. Shame is a powerful emotion, and men with paraphillias will construct elaborate defences to avoid feeling shame over their unrestrained paraphilliac sexuality
20. Paraphilliac men lie easily and repeatedly in service of their paraphillia
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21. Women resisting men’s descent into AGP are frequently accused of cruelty or emotional abuse, because AGP men genuinely feel hurt, insulted, humiliated by women attempting to prevent/slow their descent
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22. It is not abusive to attempt to help a spouse or significant other to resist the temptation to torpedo every significant support structure they have, in order to devote themselves to their paraphillia
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23. Spouses and partners of AGPs become bit-players in the AGP Spouse’s inner life, which is completely self-serving.
24. A full time paraphilliac only serves his paraphillia, and he is never ‘off the clock’
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25. The shame that prevents most men from developing antisocial sexuality no longer stops the AGP, and so he often develops other paraphillias along with his AGP. He may become interested in BDsm, or p@edophillia, for e.g.
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26. The social structures that prevent most men from engaging in paraphilliac sexuality (partnerships, marriage, family, friends) are all now abandoned or in parallel service of the paraphillia.
27. The AGP may engage in risky sexual practices
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28. Because we live in a Patriarchal society, men, including paraphilliac men, may enable/excuse/create supportive institutions/subcultures to enable paraphilliac men
29. Women are infrequently in positions of power and influence that could slow/stop this
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30. Women that are allowed to rise to positions of power and influence in a Patriarchy are frequently women that do not challenge male power, or male sexuality, and do not resist paraphilliac men
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31. Women that have been traumatised or abused by paraphilliac men will frequently attempt to warn the wider culture of the problems as a result of the paraphilliac.
32. The wider culture, being Patriarchal, will demonise & misrepresent their message
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33. The most successful paraphilliacs will weasel themselves into positions of influence where they cannot be questioned, and where any challenge by women is immediately shut down by his new support structures
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34. The women carrying warnings are not motivated by cruelty or “bloodlust”, they are behaving as pro social adults should: reinforcing the cultural norms that sustain civilisation, and preventing harms to themselves and other humans
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35. We frequently see hedonism and unrestrained male sexuality accompanying the end of an Empire or period of history.
36. There are powers that wish the Western experiment with liberal democracy to end.
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37. Hostile forces may have supported the progression of paraphilliac acceptance in Western democracies, as one front in a secret war; part of a long-held political aim to undermine our position in the world
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