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Master Murabbi
Of the main indicators of a good #parent is minimal use of anger.
In our home, I use anger less than 1% of the time with my children.
Consequently, I can very calmly say one word, “overstep” and my children immediately take heed. Without request, they’ll…
… instinctively come, of their own accord, and apologize. These are some of my favorite mommy teaching moments. I respond by smiling, embracing & kissing them, then thanking. It’s so key for parents to keep discipline positive, not punitive (unless absolutely necessary)…
This is more critical in Muslim minority populations where Islam is restrictedly manifest in home & mosque. Early attitudes toward God & Religion develop from the parental persona. The divine trust of parenting entails mercy & guardianship. Children can’t process rational creed…
Unwarranted or excessive use of force stunts children’s natural self-discipline capabilities. Parents are meant to guide a natural process, not induce a contrived one. If a parent can’t exhibit emotional maturity with their child, it’s almost guaranteed the child won’t either...
Further, setting a negative discipline dynamic in the home precludes the parent-friend dynamic necessary for healthly teenage development.
If early stages of tarbiya are done right, latter stages become a joy.
Parents do NOT have to be at odds with their adolescent kids…
This requires parental vision and principles, all of which I discuss in my #UpcomingBook from real-life experience in implementing religious values in rearing children. Ethics are the essence of Religion. If children can’t see those ethics on you, they won’t embody them…
Confidence-building in children is based in consistency of ethical rearing. In this way, children truly become “adults-in-training” Allah bless my sweet daughter who, out of the blue, apologized for a minute thing just because she noticed my expression change…
Allah preserve her and her siblings. My Lord, I am pleased with them, so be pleased with them. Amin.
Beyond haya’, can anyone guess the next TOP lesson I taught my kids?? Hint, it’s also based on a hadith…
اللهم صلّ وسلّم وبارك على سيدنا محمد وآله
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