Thread by @TellYourSonThis

Women are obedient rule following conformists at the societal level, but rebellious disobedient fools at the individual level. Why? Public opinion shapes female behaviour. Public shaming governs them utterly. Takes a village to raise a kid, takes a society to keep women in check.

A woman’s worst nightmare is that scene from Game of Thrones where Cersei walks through Kings Landing with her hair cut off and her head bowed, with the nuns ringing bells shouting “SHAME!”, “SHAME” - in China women used to shame female adulterers in a similar manner.

So poetically women thrive more in the private sphere than they do the public, but it takes the humilatory power of the public sphere to act as a deterrent and disincentive to encourage and reinforce preferable behaviours and morality in the private domain.

If you live in a society that enables women, that always assumes their innocence and never questions or criticises, but is so biased in her favour it almost always agrees with her and encourages her whims, there is no penalty for bad behaviour which makes it more likely.

A healthy society respects man’s authority and goes out of its way to uphold it by supporting women in a way that doesn’t enable their worst aspects. These are shame based societies where the collective helps regulate female insolence by punishing it harshly from all directions.

This takes place at the family and community level. She has nowhere she can go to escape judgement and social pressure to behave more honourably. I believe the majority of women require and benefit from this, and that the absence of it is an aberration that causes dysfunction.

Women are governed by shame, not honour. If they were honour governed, responsibility seeking would be more common in them and fickleness would be rarer. Truth is, like children, they need constant guidance. They are not fully autonomous, though they like to think they are.

If you don't believe me, look at how women try to control others. How they try to control men. How they try to punish and control their female rivals. They always use shame based tactics, and always try to get the group on board with them. This is their nature.

In western societies, they have the group on board with them, and not just the group, but the institutions too. Male authority is not recognised at the institutional or social level, and thus men do not receive the beneficial external pressures that'll help preserve their family.

People on this part of the web always say "she is a reflection of you, it's your fault if she does X or Y"

This is dumb because it is only partly true and lacks nuance. A man in a society hostile to his authority has to be far more competent than a man in one that reinforces it.

You and your woman argued. Imagine 2 scenarios:

Scenario A: everyone is sceptical of her actions and deeply cross examines her, urging her to self-assess and reconcile

Scenario B: everyone just agrees with whatever she says and convinces her you suck

Who's more likely to fail?

If you want to marry a completely average woman, you must live in a society that respects male authority, and exerts the appropriate pressures to herd her behaviour. Because if you do not, you are almost guaranteed a divorce. And she is likely to initiate it.

If you are going to get married in a society hostile to male authority, you must find a sweet outlier woman who respects it and has positive masculine traits like honour and a capacity for rationality. Regular women are a non-starter as the support structures just aren't there.

This is why 45% of women will be single by 2030.

The pretence of equality, the rejection of masculine authority and the childless demographic social collapse it has precipitated are raving mad delusions that dont support the longevity of civilization.

The future is patriarchal.