There’s a famous psychologist who can predict divorce with 91% accuracy.
A-list celebs and billionaires go to him with their relationship challenges.
Here’s the trick he uses to unlock hostile conflicts:
(A visual thread)
For 50 years Dr. John Gottman has studied the science of relationships.
Research revealed: 69% of conflicts can't be solved.
Gottman's path forward: embrace the metaphor "Dreams within Fists"
Inside each fist is actually a dream.
To work skillfully with gridlock...
1. Listen to each other's DREAMS
2. Reflect
Are there ANY aspects of the other dream can you support?
3. Draw the Circles
Define your non-negotiables (inner circle) and where you can compromise (outer circle).
4. Practice the Art of Compromise
Is there a compromise (that you could even try experimentally...) that honors both dreams?
In gridlock, remember there are dreams inside those fists.
"Solving" the issues may not be possible. Working with the challenges skillfully might be.
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