I asked a former "player" who now has a 20-year happy marriage what his biggest regret was.
He said: "The one type of woman I should have never pursued."
This is what he told me…. 🧵
The Type: The Healing Project.
He said, “I confused a woman’s brokenness for depth, and her trauma for passion.
I thought fixing her would be my greatest conquest. It was my greatest waste.”
1. You Cannot Build a Palace on a Fault Line.
A woman carrying unprocessed trauma, father wounds, or deep self-loathing is emotionally unstable ground.
Your strength, consistency, and love will not heal her. It will only become a resource she consumes to temporarily stabilize her chaos.
When you are drained, the fault line will quake, and she will blame you for the tremor.
2. The Savior Dynamic Inverts Polarity.
The masculine heals by creating a safe, ordered space.
The feminine heals within that space. But when her wounds are gaping, the dynamic perverts.
You become the on-call therapist, not the leader. She becomes the perpetual patient, not the supportive partner.
This mother-son, therapist-client energy annihilates sexual desire and mutual respect.
3. Trauma Bonds Are Mistaken for Passion.
The intense push-pull, the dramatic reconciliations, the emotional volatility of a wounded woman create a drug-like addiction.
This is mistaken for “chemistry” or “passion.” True passion is built on peace and security, not on managing crises.
The rollercoaster is not love; it is shared pathology.
4. Her Loyalty is to the Wound, Not to You.
Her identity is often intertwined with her victimhood.
If you truly succeed in creating an environment where she is healed, stable, and happy, she may unconsciously sabotage it. It dismantles the identity she has known for years.
You are not just fighting her past; you are fighting the ego attachment to her own story of brokenness.
5. It Bankrupts Your Mission.
Your energy,focus, and emotional capital are finite.
Pouring them into a bottomless pit of someone else’s healing means you are not building your legacy, your wealth, or your peace.
A king does not abandon his kingdom to become a full-time medic for a wounded stranger.
He ensures his kingdom has a hospital, but he does not perform every surgery himself.
6. The Rule of the Whole Vessel.
Ancient wisdom speaks of the importance of being a“whole vessel” before joining another.
Pursuing a Healing Project means you are attempting to pour from your cup into a cup with no bottom.
Your job is not to fill her. Your job is to find a woman who is already fundamentally whole, so you can both pour your overflow into a shared vision.
Do not partner with potential. Partner with presence.
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• How to understand women psychology and sexuality
• How to speak Womanese language
• How attraction really works and how to attract and date women of your dreams
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