Thread by @matthew_labosco

The most overused, misunderstood, yet quietly life-wrecking condition today:

Unresolved childhood trauma.

It's why you're always on edge, relationships don't stick, and you wake up exhausted—despite doing everything "right."

Here's what it is and how to release it: 🧵

Most people think trauma = "something terrible happened."

In nervous-system terms it's simpler:

If, as a kid, your body learned "being fully myself isn't safe"—that's unresolved trauma.

Not in your memories. In your chronic stress settings.

To survive that, your system built masks:
• The Performer
• The Achiever
• The Pleaser
• The Protector

They once kept you safe.

Now they keep you in chronic stress—overworked, anxious, disconnected—while everyone praises your "drive."

When those masks drive your life, you get chronic stress symptoms:
• Always "on" and on edge
• Relationships that never feel secure
• Bone-deep exhaustion you can't sleep off

You call it "my personality."

It's your childhood survival strategy creating chronic stress.

Your nervous system learned survival rules before age 15:

"Achieve = safe"
"Please = safe"
"Hide = safe"

You're not reliving old scenes.

You're stuck in chronic stress because adult life is being run by child-era software designed for survival, not thriving.

If you're realizing childhood patterns are creating your chronic stress—there's a protocol to retrain your nervous system.

In this free 60-min workshop today, I'll show you 5 stress loops from childhood still running + what resets your system: go.matthewlabosco.com/workshop-l5-xp…

"But I've done therapy, mindset work, meditation..."

Those tools help you cope with chronic stress symptoms:
• Turn down the volume
• Manage the alarm

But if your body still believes "not safe," stress keeps returning.

You've been treating smoke, not the fire.

Stay in survival-based chronic stress long enough and it feels normal:
• Wine to shut off
• Never really sleeping
• Low-grade panic
• Can't sit still

We call that "being a high achiever."

It's not. It's unresolved trauma creating chronic stress.

Unresolved trauma doesn't just create emotional pain.

It creates chronic stress that wrecks:
• Sleep (cortisol spikes at 3am)
• Gut (IBS, bloating, inflammation)
• Focus (brain fog, scattered)
• Relationships (always on guard)

Your body lives in threat mode 24/7.

You can't heal trauma with more willpower if chronic stress keeps your nervous system stuck in survival mode.

Free 60-min workshop today on the 5 childhood stress loops still running + protocol to retrain your system so it finally feels safe:
go.matthewlabosco.com/workshop-l5-xp…