1. Do I feel defensive when a person of color says “white people?”
2. Do I feel angry when people tell me that I benefit from white privilege?
3. When a person of color talks about race, do I feel defensive because they’re describing things that I do or think as racist?
4. Do I feel angry or annoyed by the above questions?
5. Do I have a history of embracing or growing up in racism that I feel ashamed of and so I need to show people that I’m not racist anymore?
6. Does saying “Not all white people” or similar phrases make me feel better when someone calls white people out for something?
7. Do I expect an apology when I feel like I’ve been unfairly accused of racism?
8. Do I feel better when I say, hear, or read, “It’s okay to be white?”
9. Do I try to convince people of color that they’re wrong about racism by pointing out people from their racial group who agree with me?
10. Do I feel the need to talk about how hard my ancestors had it when they immigrated, or explain my own hardships when a person of color talks about being oppressed?
11. Do I think that racism would go away if people stopped talking about it?
12. Does being told that something I say, think, do, or otherwise value is racist make me want to shut down, leave, or express my discomfort/displeasure in some way?
13. Do I feel the need to state that I have friends/family who are people of color when someone accuses me of racism?
14. Do I feel the need to prove that I’m not racist?
15. Do I feel that my opinions and perspectives about race should be given equal weight to that of a person of color, that I have something unique and important to contribute to the race conversation, and/or that it is unfair to be told to listen more than I speak?
16. Do I feel the need to defend myself on any of the above points in the comment section?
If you answered yes to any of these questions, you are dealing with white fragility. Take time to reflect on why you feel the way that you do. Take time to listen to different perspectives. ⬇️
White fragility is a hindrance to racial healing because it prevents people of color from being able to engage white people in honest conversation without also having to bear the burden of catering to white people’s emotional comfort.
At its worst, white fragility can cause an emotionally unhealthy situation for people of color because of racial power dynamics and the weight of being responsible for white folks’ feelings while not having space to express our own.
There is also the weight that comes with people that you care about lashing out at and abusing you (verbally, emotionally, and/or digitally).
If we cannot talk honestly about the issues, then we cannot make progress.
*White Fragility, as defined by DiAngelo, is the result of white racial socialization. A state in which even a minimum amount of racial stress becomes intolerable, triggering a range of defensive moves.
These moves include the outward display of emotions such as anger, fear, guilt, and behaviors such and as argumentation, silence, and leaving the stress-inducing situation. These behaviors, in turn, function to reinstate white racial comfort and status quo. (Robin DiAngelo)
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Most of those HOPs have deployed Bickle’s teachings and have bought into the prophetic history at some level. Some of them even have former #ihopkc staff members as founders or leaders.
IHOPKC also sent IHOPU students to other HOPs to do practicums.
#IHOPKC leaders, like their ELT level leaders, traveled to other HOPs and established relationships with their leaders.
When Mike says they never established “franchises,” that is technically true, but not practically true.
Yes, #ihopkc should pay restitution to every student, intern, and staffer that has been part of the organization for the past 25 years. And if that bankrupts the ministry, Mike Bickle, and the 50-11 other associated businesses, ministries, and NPOs then so be it.
The fact that Bennett, Candlet, et al are acting as if #ihopkc paying victims damages is something negative tells you all you need to know about their mindset.
They don’t give a heck about people. They care about the ministry foremost.
And here I was (and I’m sure many of you, too) thinking that we were giving up our lives to pray in little rooms across the country because we weren’t trying to build anything but were giving extravagant devotion to Jesus. #ihopkc
I actually had a dream a couple of mornings ago where I was waiting with other elder millennials outside of a room where I knew that a bunch of corrupt Boomer charismatic leaders were. They were playing a game with my generation and not letting us in the room…
When they finally let us in, they kept trying to play their game. I spoke up and told them that they were our parents and they shoved us in subpar children’s ministries so they could have their church services [this wasn’t my upbringing but I was speaking for a generation]…
Now would you take a look at this crap. It’s authentic. I went through the trouble of authenticating it so I know that it is what it purports to be: a screenshot from a meeting with #IHOPKC leaders.
I also have confirmation from multiple sources reporting similar info.
If you’re not exactly sure what you’re looking at…
It’s a document that are purportedly notes from a meeting with #IHOPKC staffers.
If this info is true, and I have reason to believe that it is, we have evidence of a false narrative being propagated within IHOPKC.
If, somehow, this information isn’t true, we have a concerted effort from within #IHOPKC to spread disinformation that discredits the #ArmchairInvestigstors.
This is the thorniest of all of the standards, so I want to tackle it first.
IHOPKC leadership has used claims from four of the six “alleged victims” that they didn’t give the whistleblowers “permission…”
🧵…to use their names in making allegations against Bickle (the women also claim that they are not victims).
I want to establish right off the bat that I am not evaluating if and whether what these women have said is true…
#ihopkc
🧵…because whether these revelations are true or not bears no impact on the issue of “asking permission” here. My argument is about the implications of these claims and not their substance.
I am so tired of people with privilege telling marginalized folks how they should feel about their oppression.
I’m also tired of people from marginalized groups being the first ones to jump up and say “I don’t feel oppressed/etc. by the stuff others marginalized folks do.”
Some of y’all really be on some pick me nonsense.
Being callous to other people’s suffering really isn’t the flex that you think it is.
If something don’t bother you, fine. But can you at least shut up and let the people who are hurt talk? Why do you gotta show out?
Y’all are so quick to dismiss people’s experiences and feelings and I just don’t get it?
There are a lot of folks with whom I share a social position that I disagree with. I’ve seen a lot of people go to the mat over stuff that I couldn’t care less about. But I still listen.