Per yesterday's thread, narcissists absolutely come undone when the freight train of public shaming or embarrassment is bearing down and can't be avoided...
...but then, when it arrives, they often run and hide from judging eyes. They cocoon. They go underground.
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Trump has done that for varying lengths of time after his worst public shamings... after Charlottesville... at the height of the border separation policy outrage...
Usually lasts anywhere from a day to a few days but he basically hides from sight, floored by what hit him.
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Then, he starts to regroup.
He cooks up some bullsh** he thinks he can use to deflect culpability, create plausible denial and shift the focus.
He then trial-balloons a flurry of new lines, seizes on the ones that do best, refines them and then is back on his feet.
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So, we've got a bit of a wild card with Trump getting on a plane to Argentina for the G-20. That makes the cocooning possibility both more and less likely.
Trump hates nothing more than being forced to walk the plank in front of world leaders as a newly weakened figure.
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Left to his druthers, he'd cancel the whole G-20 and hide out all weekend at the White House.
He can't do that though... and being forced to face his "peers" feels to him like punishment inflicted ON him BY them. He'll be mad at THEM that he has to face them right now.
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Soooo... let's watch what unfolds.
The Vegas odds-on favorite would be:
Trump dodges as many of the G-20 sessions as he can and then lashes out in stupid, nonsense-filled tantrums in the meetings he can't avoid.
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The bettor's second choice:
Full dodge. Goes dark. Hides out in his hotel. Barely shows his face. Skips meetings. Aides allege he's having "private meetings" but he's basically doing the barest possible minimum of leaving the hotel room.
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The dark horse possibility:
If Trump knows for a fact what other bad news is about to break - and is therefore still in the manic-panic-tortured helplessness described yesterday - he'll go loco lawn sprinkler as described in ranty all over the place screeds.
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So, now we get to play along at home. Where on the narc cycle is Trump?
If Trump rants incoherently about all manner of things, he's focused on what's coming next.
If he hides out, he knows what already happened today was a major blow.
Either way, prepare thy popcorn.
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My son and I do a thing where we scout “Best of…” food lists for new places, pick one, and make an outing of it. Barbecue, Latino food, ice cream shops, breakfast places.
Nothing fancy. Just good places that are new to us that we can make an outing of…
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These outings feel like little trips. Mini-adventures.
This morning, we did a breakfast run. Half-hour drive. Half-hour wait.
Sweet. Fancy. Moses.
Worth it. Delicious.
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Glazed pork belly bites on a stick.
Nacho omelette cups.
Pork roll, egg, and cheese egg rolls with cranberry ketchup.
Sitting with my son at an empty restaurant counter, the two of us drifting in and out of conversation as we tend to do.
An older woman walks up to me and says “Excuse me. Is this your son? I just wanted to say, you seem very comfortable with each other. It’s nice to see.”
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Let me tell you, that is among the nicest things anyone has ever said to me.
It is one thing to feel like you have a close, comfortable relationship with your child. It is another to have someone else tell you they can tell.
It was so out of the blue. And it made my day.
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And this wasn’t today. It was months ago.
I still think of it often.
I think it was that she saw us in the most regular of moments. We were there eating a casual bite, drifting in and out of being present, talking and then not, quiet and then talking some more.
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I can't even begin to tell you how many times some self-absorbed asshole has gone off on me like this while having no idea that my problems absolutely dwarfed their little drama they mistook for a crisis.
I hate people who do this.
For real, no joke, when my entire life was burning down, some person would just go off and then be like “I’m sorry. I’m just dealing with a lot right now.”
and it was never close to “a lot”.
It was always only *one* of the checkboxes on my list.
Always wanted to say:
“Ya ain’t the first to get divorced. Ya ain’t the first to have someone die. Ya ain’t the first to have crushing debt or lose your house or job. Ya ain’t even the first to have all of them at once. Your shit ain’t new, different or bigger.”
I have learned a lot about people and social dynamics from my experiences on Twitter.
One of the little insights: There are people on here who think reading someone’s tweets is like knowing them really well in real-life.
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That population on here tends to dramatically over-read and over-value minor things - both good and bad - as if they are hugely telling about a person…
and those people often change their whole opinion about someone based on those incidental little things.
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The irony is that the people in that group seem to think of themselves as really discriminating judges of character - as if they are far better at judging others than most - when, in fact, they tend to be much worse.