Thread by @trollhuntress

Until congress, the media, & the public understand NPD (Narcissistic Personality Disorder) we'll never be able to predict or deal with Trump.

Some of the best info on narcissism doesn't come doctors, but from the children of narcissists.
I think you'll be surprised...
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1."Having a narcissistic mother is like living under the supervision of a 6 yr-old. Narcissists are always pretending...you'll be expected to act like a doll...an object...something that can be broken but not hurt...forgotten when something more interesting comes along."
J.Ashmun

2. Here is NPD according to those who know them best...their kids,
(What I am posting here is a synopsis from the writings of Johanna Ashmun (1998) from here:
halcyon.com/jmashmun/npd/h…
and Danu Morrigan (2012) daughtersofnarcissisticmothers.com/youre-not-craz…
Both were daughters of mothers with NPD

3. Narcissists lack empathy which colors every aspect of their lives and their ability to react, reason, feel, and think rationally. This also causes them to be unable to fully grasp what they read or hear, because they'll miss context and affect.

4. They only pay attention to what affects them personally. they can't guess what others feel so can't take that into consideration or accurately predict reactions or consequences of their actions. Only their own feelings in the moment matter.

5. They have atypical memory associations, which can cause their thinking to be illogical. They don't talk about (or know?) their inner life, dreams, or even memories. Their conversation go off on tangents and irrelevancies or they'll simply repeat words or things others say.

6. They have a strange sense of time and are not always aware that time changes things, they may not notice things that changed many prior. They think they look significantly younger than they do and have a selective memory. Their ideas are fixed in the past often from childhood

7 They borrow behavior, opinions & tastes randomly from others, mostly whomever they view as an authority at that moment, ("Authority figures" are some of the few people they will listen to and usually fear.) they have no internal sense of morals.

8. They have a strange relationship with God, thinking that they are so special that God allows them to to ignore the rules that others have to follow, They may even see themselves as a saint or think events like nuclear war would not affect them or their family.

9. Narcissists lie and contradict themselves constantly. They have no relationship with the truth and will lie about anything and everything even if it's trivial. They will say that events (or history) happened differently, which they may truly believe, in that moment

10. Narcissists are motivated by power and adoration and only restrained by fear of punishment or loss of reputation (although their concept of their reputation may be out of touch with reality.) They are envious and competitive, contemptuous of others, and purposefully cruel.

11. They are very critical while being highly sensitive to criticism themselves, want revenge on any who have criticised them, and will hold a grudge and exact revenge for years, but expect others to "get over it" when they do (or can't understand others have separate feelings)

12. They have no sense of the true value of things (including work) and believe others can't see it either so believe superficial things are the same as real things. They live for the appearance, and while may be lavish for their image are usually extremely stingy.

13. They have no real sense of humor or irony, although they may repeat jokes they have heard or mock others to make others laugh because they like the attention. They also seem to have no sense of fun or pleasure beyond fulfilling bodily needs or getting adoration.

14. They are totally, inflexibly, authoritarian. Which means they will suck up to those above them they see as authority figures and act like a tyrant to any they view as beneath them. They can be charming to strangers and flatter shamelessly if they want something

15.They have a negative outlook on life, are irrationally impulsive, expect others to do anything they see as beneath them, and expect undivided attention and catering to every whim forever with zero reciprocity

16. They are naive and so out of touch and inattentive that they are very susceptible to exploitation.

17. They hate to live alone.
There is no cure.
They don't grow out of it, it get worse with age.
There are no medications for it.
The only therapies require that the narcissist admit their problem and willingly address it, which is anathema to a narcissist...
#25thAdmendmentNow

PS. Everything included here came from the viewpoint of children of narcissists (written prior to Trump) not Dr.s because these inside observations add interesting nuance and points to consider to the clinical discussion that we are more familiar with: 👇
Thank you.
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