"The key to a healthy marriage is to keep your eyes wide open before you wed, and half closed thereafter."

Wisdom from @DrJamesCDobson. He has said it often. And he's been saying it for many years.
I don’t know exactly when he started saying it. But I did find it in a newspaper article from back in 2000.
newspaperarchive.com/daily-herald-s…
This particular video has been up on his website since 2015. You can hear him say these words in his own voice. drjamesdobson.org/media/parentin…
He said it during a broadcast just a few months ago. p.widencdn.net/kg09pw/0116201…
And it has been on his social media this year, too. Both facebook and twitter.
But here’s the problem: These aren’t the words of @DrJamesCDobson.

They actually belong to Benjamin Franklin, who wrote them in 1738. vlib.us/amdocs/texts/p…
Look at what happens if you put this ["Keep your eyes wide open before marriage" James Dobson] into Google. He has been saying it long enough and often enough, there is a great deal of confusion over who owns it. google.com/search?source=…
Which is too bad. It appears a large number of people now think this is the wisdom of Dobson instead of Franklin.

It doesn’t have to be difficult, y’all. Just give credit where credit is due.

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I am glad for helpers of all stripes who are committing to serving victims of domestic violence.

But I came across this the other day. And I have some questions.
Let's start with this one: Why can't we get past the headline before reading about DV victims being "tempted?" Temptation leads to sin - and so from the very beginning of the article, we are getting echoes of victim-blaming. If she doesn't seek help, it's probably her fault.
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God’s people keep forgetting. They keep going back to old ways. They keep returning to idol worship and self-determinism and a whole host of bad choices.
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They cannot save themselves.
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The entire organization is rendered mostly mute and powerless to speak on issues of sexual abuse and misconduct when it’s really needed.
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