Not sure why I haven’t since I’ve written endlessly about narcissistic personality disorder.
May be relevant given everyone in the WH has a narc boss.
The more I rejected them, the more interested the CEO became. Courted me. Took me out to dinner. Flattered the crap out of me.
As soon as I arrived, I discovered some pretty insane things.
One of the big clients I was supposed to work on... didn’t exist.
The company existed. They weren’t a client.
I eventually came up with names for them.
One was “Proclaim and Disclaim”.
Would announce he landed a big new client... and then say the deal was in process... and then hitting some obstacles... and then sidelined... but coming someday.
The CEO truly didn’t know that the partner was just blowing smoke up his a** each and every day as a strategy.
Most partners used that one.
They would appear to readily agree to things the CEO wanted and then give the appearance of pursuing them while actually doing nothing other than managing that appearance.
The CEO had dual ivy degrees. So did most of the partners (not me!). This was a “smart” guy being manipulated by smart people.
Narcs are easy to manipulate despite being manipulators.
The Proclaim and Disclaim dude was a senior partner despite none of the things he proclaimed ever materializing. It was... wild.
The CEO would separate them from the flock. He’d run a little whisper campaign to let the other partners know that he was “disappointed” in the target.
The partner would go through a period of trying to handle the increasing pressure put on by the CEO.
They would be tormented, stressed, suffering - and out on an island.
The survivors knew the cycle. As soon as someone was marked, they were done. Questioning the CEO was a death warrant.
Unlike his other victims though, I understood his deal. Straight narcissistic personality disorder.
...or I could leave unhappy and become a public detractor in places where he couldn’t control the narrative.
Protecting the facade is a narcissist’s kryptonite.
No joke, getting there was the best strategic work of my career.
The other partners... the survivors... those folks with dual ivy degrees... he screwed every last one.
Sold the company. Cheated them all.
Every staffer has developed a strategy to merely keep from being the person marked as a target.
Most people though, no matter how strong or competent they are, default to the lowest strategy: sycophancy and avoidance.
In private, those people spend their days not thinking about whether a directive is right or wrong but instead calculating the risks.
Trump fires people for not being convinced enough by the facade to worship... and he can’t face them up close.
He can’t handle people who mirror back his weakness.
He has other people fire them... and then he goes back into the meetings where staffers with strategies game and manipulate him to merely survive.
At this pt, every mtg, conversation and decision is in some way driven by the bottomless pit of Trump’s broken ego.
People go along more; quietly undermine less; and settle into an abusive situation by fashioning strategies to merely not be the person abused...
They know Trump is awful. They aren’t leaving. That isn’t going to change... until their day comes and they get tagged with a target.
They’ll be shocked to be carrying out their boxes.
Then they’ll call the past detractors and tell them they had been right all along.
Such is the way it goes with narcs. Always.