There's a lot of talk about how divided we are as a country. And we are.
But most people who lament about the divide never even talk about the divide. They’re talking about something else.
They’re talking about tension.
Tension. Divide. Two separate things.
Tension is caused by a difference of opinion: I think we should be able to fire Jimmy because he’s gay, while you think that would be wrong.
Tension. Not division. Neither of us is in danger of anything.
The divide is caused by supremacy: I think we should fire Jimmy for being gay, then I fire him, then neither of us experience any consequence other than the tension caused by your criticism
Because our law has decided it’s OK to do that
And we’re not gay
THAT’S the divide
Or let’s zoom out.
The government decides it’s all right for companies not to serve Jimmy because he’s gay, or to fire Jimmy because he’s gay.
So I get the idea that Jimmy’s not a part of society.
And I get the idea I can safely hit him with a brick.
And I’m right.
The divide isn’t between you and me, because if you prevail or I prevail in our argument, neither one of us is getting fired.
In fact, maybe you could get Jimmy’s job.
You might not even know how you benefited.
Your benefit has nothing to do with your opinion.
The divide actually exists between US—you and me—and Jimmy.
It’s not a question of belief. It’s a question of geography.
We stand on safe ground. Jimmy doesn’t.
A divide.
A hard and important thing to remember is: one can be entirely against empowered abuse and still be on the “side” of empowered abuse, practically speaking.
In this way, I am on the "side" of white supremacy, for example.
My opinions matter, but they don’t change that truth.
Opinions matter because if we disagree with supremacy, it creates tension, and tension creates discomfort, and discomfort makes it harder to enact supremacy and profit from it.
But opinion isn’t exoneration, and the disagreement isn’t the divide.
Among privileged people who support abuse, it’s popular to frame our cultural divide as being a matter of opinion, because it provides relief from the tension of conflict, and cover from social and legal consequences of their cruelty.
And, for those of us who are privileged but oppose supremacy, it’s a popular and tempting framing too, because it allows us to believe all we have to do to self-exonerate is have correct opinions.
So we avoid the work of dismantling the abusive system from which we profit.
I have many more thoughts about this, but this thread will get even more out of hand if I try to unpack them all.
But, when somebody says the problem with society is that we’re divisive, inspect it.
Do they actually mean the tension?
When they call for unity, ask:
Unity how?
I recommend a true unity w/supremacy that increases the tension.
A unity that confesses supremacy. The opposite of “Not all _____”
A unity where we say “Our society is driven by supremacy, and here are the ways I benefit, and here are the ways I will try to dismantle it.”
I can’t disassociate my whiteness from what whiteness is doing to people of color in this country, but I can confess it.
I can’t disassociate my maleness from what male domination is doing to women in this country, but I can confess it.
I can’t disassociate my Christian faith from what the Christian church is doing in the name of every sort of bigotry in this country—all so they can disassociate themselves from any perceived uncleanness—but I can confess it.
I can’t disassociate my employment or affluence from what wealth worship is doing to poor people in this country, but I can confess
I can’t disassociate my status as a US citizen from the growing military and economic menace the US is delivering to the world, but I can confess
THAT is a unity I can get behind. Unify with unjust power, not to assist it, but to expose and confront it and confess its moral crimes, not from outside it but as a confessed part of it, from within, where it's built few defenses.
To those who scold that we mustn’t assume evil intentions into the actions of people who consistently pursue absolute evil with steadfast dedication and unshakable resolve: yes, we should.
I guess the ultimate answer to "you don't know what their true motivations are" is "who gives a shit what their motivations are?"
I care *that* you want to burn down my house. I only care *why* you want to burn down my house to the extent it helps me stop you.
Father: *strangles my brother*
Me: help help my father is murdering my brother
Centrist Cousin: it’s that sort of us vs them thinking that’s tearing this family apart
Me: no look literally he’s murdering my brother right in front of us
Centrist Cousin: he’s never going to want to stop if you keep vilifying him with overheated black and white language; I’ve engaged many stranglers and learned a lot about the complexities
Brother: gkkk gkk gk
Me: Look he’s about to die, for real; I really think we just need to stop my dad from killing him right now
Centrist Cousin: that’s exactly the sort of judgemental escalating bad thinking on our side that we need to criticize, I refuse to let myself become just as bad as he is
To be clear, that's any Republicans at any level for any position at any time, and honestly we may want to expand that to include Democrats willing to work with Republicans.
Shut the whole party down, out, and over.
If you want to live in a modern enlightened society and you vote for Republicans, no you don't.
As a Wordle pro on the tour, I feel I should share the best starting word, which all the pros know.
(My own personal favorite starting word is COCCYX, but if I show amateurs how to guess 6-letter words I will be banned from the Wordle Pro Tour and forced to sit next to Bret Stephens in the NYT cafeteria.)
Wordle is a game of constantly shifting strategy; I recommend you get the latest version of my strategy compendium, v14.
Specifically with this order. The one that exists. This reality. The way our systems and laws are set up, the way they’re codified and the way they’re operationalized. What they claim to intend to do, and what they actually do.
“The way things are,” in other words.
Let’s think of conservatism as being, in its essence, an orientation that desires to keep the existing order just as it is, or to make slow and deliberate calculated minor adjustments, to the existing order.
In BREAKFAST AT TIFFANY’S, Mickey Rooney played I. Y. Yunioshi, dressed up in buck teeth and a cartoon squint, a grotesque caricature of a Japanese person.
So I suppose in that sense “you wouldn’t be able” to make BREAKFAST AT TIFFANY’S today.
Which seems somehow preferable.
Now: what interests me is what it means to say *you can’t* make BREAKFAST AT TIFFANY’S these days.
It doesn’t mean you CAN’T. Unlike teaching, say,The Bluest Eye to Texas schoolchildren, there exist no laws to prevent Will Ferrell from putting in the teeth and playing Yunioshi.
So actually you *can* make BREAKFAST AT TIFFANY’S today, I.Y. Yunioshi and all, and throw in Long Duc Dong if you want.
You can if you want wear blackface and dance around in white gloves, like Fred Astaire in SWING TIME, if you want to.